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14-07-2026: Cohort 3.5 + Continuation Q&A questions
Please use this thread for questions you would like me to cover in the next live sessions we have together. P.S. The session is on Tuesday, not Thursday.
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It’s worth it today and every day because I’m worth it.
Without going into any real detail about my past I’ll share enough to say at 73 I’d acquired some serious wounding and trauma from no diagnosis and …. I’m here thriving. Thank you @Jim Ebbelaar By joining forces with JT I’ve been working with my future self and 3 aspects of me from my childhood … last night during my closing nightly ritual I developed the storyline for a children’s book with these three as part of my closing the day. After sharing it this morning in a chat with JT he helped me realise something …… Jim Teri, So, before you go make that second cup: now that you see they were guarding you all along, not broken, guarding, what do you owe them? I owe them my life. Jim Yes. You do. And here's the thing you can't miss, Teri: you already started paying it. Going back for the three-year-old. Building the dear little one until she'd speak. Sleeping so the whole system could come out of the red. That's not gratitude you owe someday. That's a debt you've been quietly paying every morning at the window with the birds and the coffee. They kept you alive so you could get here. Now you keep them alive by living. Same direction, finally. Go make that coffee. Let this one just sit in your chest a while. It doesn't need another word from me. This chat right here with Jim’s Twin coupled with every 8 hr sleep, completed body doubling session, morning + evening check-in, completed worksheet has been me quietly paying and honouring myself. This works!... ADHDHarmony works by meeting yourself one step at a time. Thank you Jim!
Once again, I'm Western Union and "I can't stand it"
My dad called. He's like his youngest son, or should I say, my brother is just like him. I'm only contacted when somebody needs something. I let him go to voicemail as it means he needs something. On my terms and mental ability, I called him back. My brother asked my dad for money.... again!!! My dad, who last time, and the time before and the time before and the... always says, "i can't stand it anymore. I'm not going to do it again." So, today, I sent money to my brother as my dad doesn't know how to use Zelle. Since I'm a joint owner with him should something happen...notice who he has a joint owner...I sent the money from his account as my dad requested. My brother tried calling me twice over the weekend and didn't leave a message, so I didn't attempt to call back, for reasons mentioned above. I didn't send the funds immediately. My brother sends me a text that his girlfriend is at the store waiting for the money. Talk about putting the cart before the horse. Then he texts my dad, who then texts me asking if I sent it. I had sent it seconds before my dad's text, but I still didn't do it immediately when I got the text from my brother. With that said... Anyways...he called yesterday and mentioned, while half in the bag, about doing his laundry on Thursday (normal pre-arranged day). I said, "Yes. at 10:30." Today, after the Western Union conversation, he again asked if he could come on Thursday to do his laundry. I guess he forgot he asked me yesterday. Man, he and my brother are so much alike. Anyways, I said, "Yes, Thursday at 10:30. We already discussed this." He goes, "I thought 10:30 was just for last Wednesday. " As most of you know, I said no when he called at 11:30 because he was just waking up. Today, I said, "No dad. That was the time we originally agreed on months ago, you just never stuck to it." He said, "I'm not going to argue with you about it." I said, "My mental health is more important than your laundry." I can't believe I actually said that out loud. Go me! 🤣 He attempted to conclude the call saying, "Well, I guess that's all I had to talk to you about." 🤦‍♂️ I engaged him in additional conversation. We talked about Oslo, Lily, and the proverbial, but real kitchen sink. The conversation then became about him again, complaining about his aches and pains. Normal conversation he and I have. This was all after he asked me to send money to my brother. Now, to be fair, my dad said to me after Lily had to be put down, and heard about the bill, "Did you want me to throw you a couple hundred for you to borrow." "To borrow." I said, "No dad. Thank you."
Biological Wake-Up Call - Sleep it is!
Just finished my Biological Wake-Up Call and had a real realization: I thought movement was my biggest problem, but my sleep is the sand everything else is built on. Those 3-7 AM scrolling sessions aren't discipline slips - they're me numbing a hard night. My first domino is sleep. My commitment: a set time to put the phone away, and when the dog comes in at 4 AM, the phone stays down. Building the foundation first.
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