Once again, I'm Western Union and "I can't stand it"

My dad called. He's like his youngest son, or should I say, my brother is just like him. I'm only contacted when somebody needs something. I let him go to voicemail as it means he needs something. On my terms and mental ability, I called him back. My brother asked my dad for money.... again!!! My dad, who last time, and the time before and the time before and the... always says, "i can't stand it anymore. I'm not going to do it again." So, today, I sent money to my brother as my dad doesn't know how to use Zelle. Since I'm a joint owner with him should something happen...notice who he has a joint owner...I sent the money from his account as my dad requested. My brother tried calling me twice over the weekend and didn't leave a message, so I didn't attempt to call back, for reasons mentioned above. I didn't send the funds immediately. My brother sends me a text that his girlfriend is at the store waiting for the money. Talk about putting the cart before the horse. Then he texts my dad, who then texts me asking if I sent it. I had sent it seconds before my dad's text, but I still didn't do it immediately when I got the text from my brother. With that said...

Anyways...he called yesterday and mentioned, while half in the bag, about doing his laundry on Thursday (normal pre-arranged day). I said, "Yes. at 10:30."

Today, after the Western Union conversation, he again asked if he could come on Thursday to do his laundry. I guess he forgot he asked me yesterday. Man, he and my brother are so much alike.

Anyways, I said, "Yes, Thursday at 10:30. We already discussed this." He goes, "I thought 10:30 was just for last Wednesday. " As most of you know, I said no when he called at 11:30 because he was just waking up. Today, I said, "No dad. That was the time we originally agreed on months ago, you just never stuck to it." He said, "I'm not going to argue with you about it." I said, "My mental health is more important than your laundry." I can't believe I actually said that out loud. Go me! 🤣 He attempted to conclude the call saying, "Well, I guess that's all I had to talk to you about." 🤦‍♂️ I engaged him in additional conversation. We talked about Oslo, Lily, and the proverbial, but real kitchen sink. The conversation then became about him again, complaining about his aches and pains. Normal conversation he and I have. This was all after he asked me to send money to my brother. Now, to be fair, my dad said to me after Lily had to be put down, and heard about the bill, "Did you want me to throw you a couple hundred for you to borrow." "To borrow." I said, "No dad. Thank you."

He had to ask me if I wanted to "borrow" money. He didn't just offer it out of kindness. With the thousands my brother has been given over the years, "throw you a couple hundred". No. I'll pay it on my own. If he just handed it to me saying something kind, even if it was a temporary loan, I would have accepted it. It was after I sent the gofundme link was sent to him, my cousin and my uncle. I already have a conversation thread with the three of them. He's not on any social media, and I'm not active on social media.... once again y'all know that. I sound like a broken record today. lol That's when he mentions over the phone about "throwing" money to me.

To use my dad's phrasing, I can't stand it. You know what. I won't. See you at 10:30 Thursday dad so you can do your laundry. (I'll allow a 15–20-minute window past that, as I don't want to me too rigid.) But not 11:30 or 12:30. As I told him, and already said above, "My mental health is more important than his laundry."

This was another one of my brain dumps with me cutting and pasting to try and make a somewhat coherent post. 🙇‍♂️

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Once again, I'm Western Union and "I can't stand it"