I would like to answer the question "How are you?" or something similar, honestly. I truly want to share how I am. But the truth is, most of the time I don’t know. In that moment, when someone asks me, I often can’t feel how I’m actually doing. During the day, I do notice sometimes that I feel good or not so good. But on the spot, when asked directly, there’s usually nothing there... 🙈 How do you do it when you honestly share how you're doing? Do you simply turn inward, and a feeling arises that you can share? Do you always feel something that matches the question? I’m currently practicing answering somatic questions through the body. And that often works. But how to feel how I’m doing on command, that’s something I don’t know yet 🤷‍♀️ Thank you in advance if anyone feels called to share their perspective on this.

I’ve often wondered… Why are most of us so good at showing up for others (bosses, friends, family members – you name it), but often so inconsistent at showing up for ourselves? Aren’t we among the most important people in our lives? Most people would say ‘yes’, but their behaviour seldom reflects it: - They continue to eat poorly and skip workouts, knowing the long-term consequences. - They continue to put their projects off until tomorrow, when ‘tomorrow’ never comes. - They continue to try to make everyone else happy without taking care of their own emotional needs. - They continue to emphasize their own failures, while downplaying their victories. And much more! The list goes on and on… Why do you think this is? What is it about human nature that makes many of us neglect, fail to show up for, and cheat ourselves? Would you cheat on your partner? I hope not! So, why are you ‘cheating on yourself’ so to speak? I’m interested to hear your thoughts on this! Here’s a story about showing up for oneself, or rather, a lack thereof... My supervisor at my previous job (teaching at a university and working in the open-access English only space). An excellent employee and all-around good guy; this post isn’t intended to pick on him, but rather, to make a point. He arrives at work at 7:45 am, even though work starts at 9:00, and goes home after 7:00 pm, even though he could go at 6:00. When asked why, he says it is simply because he has so much to do. He doesn't charge his company any overtime, especially because they couldn't afford to pay him for all of those hours anyway. I think he takes pride in his work, and how much he works. Thanks to his efforts, his company has maintained their contract with that university for many years, and everyone knows that if he quit, that would be the end of the company, as that university contract is their only real lifeline (pressure!!). Contrary to his work efforts, he doesn't seem to show up for himself at all. He is at least a bit overweight, gets "metabolic syndrome" on his health check every year (that leads to diabetes eventually, amongst other ailments), talks about starting some sort of exercise program but never does, eats all sorts of crap throughout the day, along with sugary drinks, and as a result, is often moody.