Some of the guys I work with make such an astonishing transformation that their before and after pictures are two completely different guys. Will is one of these. I won't share his personal secrets, but let's just say his upbringing did him no favours. He started on the back foot, without any good support or role models growing up. Like most introverted Nice Guys, he became the "wallflower" type, flying under the radar to avoid bullying, conflict and disapproval. But he was Will-ing to do something about it. Slowly, piece by piece, he replaced the people-pleasing and self-defeating elements of his life with confidence. He quit the comfortable job he'd slipped into based on connections and competence, and boldly struck out to develop a career that suited his values, experimenting with a vast range of activities to figure out who he really was. He started standing up for himself, particularly with his family, and also took up Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, to overcome his fear of conflict and confrontation. He can now assertively stand his ground with anyone. Will learned how to confidently find, approach and connect with women he's attracted to, eventually creating his first real relationship and an abundant love life with women of quality which he led and initiated, developing a non-needy and naturally calm social energy (best suited for introverts). Will has gone from strength to strength with determination, humility and bravery. He has earned his new life the hard way, and will now be a confident man indefinitely. My hat goes off to Will - he could easily coach others now.

I've been plugging away at youtube for over 10 years, and yesterday we finally crossed the meaningless milestone of 10,000 subscribers. Thank you to everyone who has supported the channel, especially people who shared it with others to help spread the word. I've never been one to go viral or anything, and the youtube algorithm isn't very fond of me, so your support is what keeps the channel alive. I'll keep pumping out the vids, and of course I'm listening to you, so feel free to suggest content ideas or request answers at any time.

Angie is one of my longest client/friend relationships. We started working together many years ago to deal with her personal life, then she became a coach herself and helps c-suite powerhouses become more assertive. She even attended my wedding! She is simply one of the most inspiring people I've ever met, and this last year she has been thoroughly impressive. Angie has packed up her whole life - selling nearly everything she has - to buy a van and life the nomadic van lifestyle, running her online biz and touring the country with complete freedom. This, on the back of a year where she had to deal with a horrendous challenge in her personal life that I suspect less than 1% of people could handle emotionally (I can't share private details here - just trust me, if I say it's "horrendous" I'm not exaggerating - you better believe it was tough). In our coaching, she modelled what it meant to be curious, courageous, and willing to change. She was challenging and showed critical thinking during our sessions, ensuring we hashed things out to the point where she fully understood a new frame of mind and she would then implement it immediately. The incredible progress she's made is a result of her tenacity, humility, and unrelenting determination. Like erosion, nothing can withstand her because she simply never gives up. We could all benefit from being a bit more like Angie!

Comment below with something you're proud of yourself for.. Don't qualify it or minimize it, just practice being proud of your achievements, valued living, and good decisions.

Today I want to recognize one of my former clients Tony. He came to me after breaking up with his long-term partner and feeling like he'd completely lost who he was. Years of Nice Guy Syndrome in a deteriorating marriage where he constantly compromised his needs to placate his wife had left him an empty shell and socially isolated. One thing I love about my work is seeing people recover from NGS quicker than me! Tony LEAPED into the work. Within a few conversations he was out meeting strangers, expressing attraction directly, and creating a love life he never imagined was possible. Then he took it a step further, quitting his safe trade job to pack everything up and travel to Asia. There he embraced a lifestyle of letting go of control and just backing himself to make bold decisions. Tony now knows who he is, what he wants from life, and who he'd like to spend that time with. One of the fastest transitions I've ever witnessed, because he was radically honest and extremely brave. Congrats to Tony - well earned!