Snuggle up everyone, it's story time. I’ve always loved water. Jumping into it. Swimming in it. Just being near it. In New Zealand we have this beautiful, slightly unhinged tradition called bombing - jumping into water in a way that creates the biggest splash possible. Not graceful. Not elegant. The goal is chaos. Noise. Water everywhere. The other day I was down at the waterfront at a local swimming-and-jumping spot. It’s one of those places where there are always a few locals who are elite bombers. Huge splashes. Professional commitment. Years of aquatic nonsense under their belts. I wanted to bomb. But then the old fear showed up. What if my splash is tiny? It will be tiny What if people laugh? What if I do this big dramatic leap… and it’s basically a sad puddle? I stood there overthinking the physics of water displacement like my integrity depended on it... Then, I called - bullshit Something clicked from the social confidence challenge Instead of trying to avoid people laughing at me, I reframed it. “What if this is rejection therapy?” “How many rejections can I get?” “How many people can laugh at me today?” Suddenly it wasn’t about the splash anymore. It was about collecting laughs. So I jumped. Bombed. Jumped again. Bombed again. Rather than laughing, people started giving me tips. Sure their were some laughs. But from me, no hesitation. No build-up. Just over and over. Big ones. Awkward ones. Questionable ones. Absolute chaos. And here’s the weird thing. Somewhere along the way, my splash got… better. Not only that - the big splash locals started nodding. Smiling. One even threw out a compliment or a clap. Who knew? Possibly Dan. Now I bomb freely. Joyfully. With confidence. And if someone laughs? Perfect. Ill try to drop some vids at some stage. There is a local council run bomb competition. I'm entering.

I walked into the gym today with the intention on saying something about a room they closed off. I see the manager at the front counter, I check in, and walk past him. I say to myself "I gotta say something about this today." My armpits start sweating with a mixture of fear, anxiety, and nervousness. "Fuck it" I say to myself. I confront the manager about my displeasure with the room closed off. I take a neutral tone. I just give him my opinion, didn't sugar coat, and especially didn't try to make it land softer. (No room given to the people pleaser part of me). The manager was cool about it. He said he will try to help. The "monster in my head" never came out to eat me. I walked off, told my wife I talked to the manager, she thanked me, and then told her I loved her. I walked upstairs and started my gym session. I smiled like a kid on Christmas, told myself I was proud of me, and finished working my gym session. I realized more honest confrontations build my true self up while earning myself more courage too.

Hey Dan, I'm raising my head about the trenches to say thank you for creating and doing the work on the Chat with Dan Munro AI. In my humble opinion, I find it really helps me pause, think, and not stew in my emotions. I'd say it's like my emotional umbrella at the moment. I read you're developing an app too. 👍 Here's to 2026, Brojos

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Some of the guys I work with make such an astonishing transformation that their before and after pictures are two completely different guys. Will is one of these. I won't share his personal secrets, but let's just say his upbringing did him no favours. He started on the back foot, without any good support or role models growing up. Like most introverted Nice Guys, he became the "wallflower" type, flying under the radar to avoid bullying, conflict and disapproval. But he was Will-ing to do something about it. Slowly, piece by piece, he replaced the people-pleasing and self-defeating elements of his life with confidence. He quit the comfortable job he'd slipped into based on connections and competence, and boldly struck out to develop a career that suited his values, experimenting with a vast range of activities to figure out who he really was. He started standing up for himself, particularly with his family, and also took up Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, to overcome his fear of conflict and confrontation. He can now assertively stand his ground with anyone. Will learned how to confidently find, approach and connect with women he's attracted to, eventually creating his first real relationship and an abundant love life with women of quality which he led and initiated, developing a non-needy and naturally calm social energy (best suited for introverts). Will has gone from strength to strength with determination, humility and bravery. He has earned his new life the hard way, and will now be a confident man indefinitely. My hat goes off to Will - he could easily coach others now.