Snuggle up everyone, it's story time. I’ve always loved water. Jumping into it. Swimming in it. Just being near it. In New Zealand we have this beautiful, slightly unhinged tradition called bombing - jumping into water in a way that creates the biggest splash possible. Not graceful. Not elegant. The goal is chaos. Noise. Water everywhere. The other day I was down at the waterfront at a local swimming-and-jumping spot. It’s one of those places where there are always a few locals who are elite bombers. Huge splashes. Professional commitment. Years of aquatic nonsense under their belts. I wanted to bomb. But then the old fear showed up. What if my splash is tiny? It will be tiny What if people laugh? What if I do this big dramatic leap… and it’s basically a sad puddle? I stood there overthinking the physics of water displacement like my integrity depended on it... Then, I called - bullshit Something clicked from the social confidence challenge Instead of trying to avoid people laughing at me, I reframed it. “What if this is rejection therapy?” “How many rejections can I get?” “How many people can laugh at me today?” Suddenly it wasn’t about the splash anymore. It was about collecting laughs. So I jumped. Bombed. Jumped again. Bombed again. Rather than laughing, people started giving me tips. Sure their were some laughs. But from me, no hesitation. No build-up. Just over and over. Big ones. Awkward ones. Questionable ones. Absolute chaos. And here’s the weird thing. Somewhere along the way, my splash got… better. Not only that - the big splash locals started nodding. Smiling. One even threw out a compliment or a clap. Who knew? Possibly Dan. Now I bomb freely. Joyfully. With confidence. And if someone laughs? Perfect. Ill try to drop some vids at some stage. There is a local council run bomb competition. I'm entering.

I walked into the gym today with the intention on saying something about a room they closed off. I see the manager at the front counter, I check in, and walk past him. I say to myself "I gotta say something about this today." My armpits start sweating with a mixture of fear, anxiety, and nervousness. "Fuck it" I say to myself. I confront the manager about my displeasure with the room closed off. I take a neutral tone. I just give him my opinion, didn't sugar coat, and especially didn't try to make it land softer. (No room given to the people pleaser part of me). The manager was cool about it. He said he will try to help. The "monster in my head" never came out to eat me. I walked off, told my wife I talked to the manager, she thanked me, and then told her I loved her. I walked upstairs and started my gym session. I smiled like a kid on Christmas, told myself I was proud of me, and finished working my gym session. I realized more honest confrontations build my true self up while earning myself more courage too.

This is not a New Year’s resolution challenge; it's a decision-making and identity challenge designed to set up your entire year (and beyond). 🎯 The Core Idea - Stop chasing outcomes (money, abs, status, approval). - Define a North Star: the person you want to be. - Use that identity to make simple, binary decisions every day: - Integrity = behavior that consistently matches your values. 🧭 What We’re Building This Month By the end of January, you’ll have: - A clear identity-based North Star - A practical plan covering how you'll improve the 5 areas of life: Health, Career, Social, Psychology, and Mission - A decision-making framework you can use daily - A plan you can always get back on track with (no perfection required) ⚠️ Important Expectation - This challenge requires radical honesty - No trying to look impressive, no fluff, no promises - If you bullshit, you miss the point 🧠 Week 1 Focus: Identity & Clarity - Define who you know you should be - Identify your core values (e.g. courage, honesty, responsibility, integrity) - Look honestly at your past behaviour and identify gaps—especially during the last year - Create a first draft of your North Star - VIP workshop on January 5 for support from me on your plan 📝 First Task (Do This Now) Comment below with a first draft identity description: - Core values & principles you want to live by - Internal experience: how it feels to be that person - External behavior: what others would observe you doing consistently e.g. "I am honest, brave, and responsible. This makes me feel light, free and respected. From the outside, I'm someone who speaks his mind, does the hard work, and owns his decisions". ⚠️ Write it in the present tense ❌ No clichés ❌ No vague “trying to be” language ✅ Describe who this person is as if it is already true This is a draft — you’ll refine it throughout the month. Don't spend more than 10mins on this!

Welcome everyone to the Brojo Integrity Army community! Thank you all so much for joining. NEXT STEPS: 1) Please write a post introducing yourself - where you're from, what you're working on, and anything else you want people to know about you. 2) Have a look at the Nice Guy Recovery & Social Confidence course in the Classroom tab. 3) Check out the Membership Upgrade options to unlock the most valuable courses and coaching support. 4) Test out the Virtual Dan Coaching App to get specific support and guidance on your unique goals and issues (you'll be amazed at how much it sounds like Dan). ------ Some group rules to keep in mind: - No solicitation without my approval - do not offer your services or products as posts or private comments to other members - if someone does this, let me know immediately. This will result in a permanent ban. - Keep it respectful and try to help each other out. Disagreement is fine, abuse is not. - This page is exclusively about self-development, so discussions on unrelated topics (e.g. politics) will get deleted. - If anything in this group bothers you for whatever reason, please personally message me and I'll try to sort it out Thanks, and enjoy the community!! Dan

Happy new years to all of you! To help you plan and prepare for 2026 to ensure it's better than any year you had before, I'm giving away free copies of my book The Legendary Life, which takes you through the entire step by step process for planning your life, including how to motivate yourself, write goals, and remove barriers. The first 10 people to comment "Legendary" get a copy! Cheers Dan