Hey guys. I figured I'd share my personal list of sexual shame I created as part of the shameless course. 1. I feel embarrassed due to my lack of experience romantically and platonically with females. 2. I feel like I can’t connect with them without worrying about doing something stupid. I was called creepy and awkward by a crush in eighth grade indirectly by another girl who was her friend. That girl I had a crush on never had the guts to tell me the truth to my face. 3. I started masturbation when I was 14 to curvy women on Instagram, same time I was in eighth grade. But I am doing well so far quitting this habit. 4. I am envious of people who are in relationships, especially guys that were / are dating women I was attracted to. 5. I was being compared to other guys by group of girls in my grade. One especially said to me that every woman can do better than you. That stung and made me feel like I am not good enough. 6. I fantasize about women that I am not connected with, especially those at work. There was this one woman who is gorgeous and she is in a different department. I learned last year she has a boyfriend, and I had a crush on her before. I felt silly because I can’t be able to connect with her, even on a platonic level where other men can connect with her. 7. In eighth grade, my friend and I were told by our moms that they are disappointed in us for being interested in girls. So, I never learned how to talk to women or learn how to take healthy risks with one such as PDA in public and flirting. I was afraid of getting in trouble. 8. In high school. I didn’t know how to lead a relationship, especially with a high school girlfriend. She said she always wanted me to decide, and I was too easy going about making decisions. I was afraid of messing things up or doing the wrong thing.

Just at a petrol station, filled up, was aware of some toxic masculine push n shove over the other side of the fore court. I thought not much of it, except to keep away from it. I react badly to male ego battling around me. But loo and behind, I decided to go to tge loo, was almost at tge door and one of the aforementioned said wgo blokes wiped in, pushed oadt me and shut the door in my face. I was fuckibg gobsmacked .... I walked back out , telling the teller what had happened. Tgen the red faced ego bloke comes up past me, and I decided not to do my normal wimp out, so I said to him, "you pushed in front of me". My clear honest assertion enabled my fear of aggressive men to subside, so I guess i more or less matched energies . This fuckbwit then proceeded to tell me I was wrong, I might have been walking to the drinks, he didn't see me, he told me I could think lies if I wanted. I just kept saying "you pushed in front of me" in the ole broken record. I was still a bit worried I might get fearful,or he might get angrier, but I knew my truth, said nothing but my truth as he over protested, justified,ghosted, etc, me . .. So pretty silly, fairly humorous, but for me a win of holding my truth, holding my honesty and not backing down

What's up group! I'm 16 years old and is wondering what misstakes you did at this age and what you regret not doing. Apreciate you in advance :D

Hello, Brojo Community. As a part of the Shameless course i wanted to share my personal list around the things that might be related to my sexual shame: 1. The lack of experience in romantic field. I'm ashamed of that 2. Feeling an anxiety around women, especially the ones that I'm attracted to. I feel like there's shame towards women, because of the automatic suppression of attraction or desire. 3. Masturbation and watching porn rarely. So, yeah, these things just a coping mechanism of sexual shame and getting rid of this heavy emotion for me 4. Social anxiety. My attraction towards women are sexualy shameful by default. 5. Fantasies and desires. After one coffee with a girl i started to fantasise about our next date. Although i knew that she wasn't interested in us like i was, so i tried to lie to myself imagining fantasies in my head about our next date. And in the end she rejected me, cause obviously she wasn't interested in me and told me about that actually that same night. I just didn't want to hear that. 6. I envy people who are in relationships or have a partner. 7. Trying to keep it pleasent and safe among unfamiliar women. 8. I'm ashamed of flirting. Right now I won't do that until i feel really familiar and safe with a person. 9. I'm ashamed of my poor sexual experience 10. And because of lack of experience and lack of serious relationships i feel that im less of a man

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