Normal sharing versus oversharing versus trauma dumping
Thought this might be of interest to some that are feeling a little nervous about sharing. Rather than what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas...what happens in ADHD Harmony stays in ADHD Harmony, we hope. Some people have wondered if they are sharing too much in a course where almost everyone, if not everyone, is a stranger. In a group where you finally feel seen and heard and where others are also willing to make themselves vulnerable in order to help each other grow, there shouldn't be any issues, though certainly it can feel uncomfortable when vulnerabilities have been used in the past by people to make you feel bad or less than. It can go too far if it falls into some of the categories below, I suppose. Oversharing is sharing excessive personal information, while trauma dumping is a specific, high-intensity form of oversharing focused on traumatic events, often unloaded without consent or regard for the listener's capacity. While oversharing can be awkward, trauma dumping is usually overwhelming, one-sided, and can feel like a "verbal diarrhea" of emotional distress. And then there is the sharing of a covert narcissist. "A covert narcissist gets attention through subtle, indirect, and manipulative tactics designed to make them appear as victims, heroes, or martyrs rather than overtly superior. They crave validation but seek it through pity, self-deprecation, passive-aggression, and playing the role of the misunderstood person."