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I don't even know what to title this. I am in shock.
The final AI-generated report needs to come with a warning. I am emotionally wrecked. But in the best way possible. The AI report that came after completing Day 5 questions has beyond exceeded my expectations. If I wanted to write a book about my life, I would 100% use this tool as guidance. This report cracked open every secret, every suppressed feeling, every detail of my life that actually matters. If you are lost or have felt suppressed most of your life, you NEED to do this report. Be as honest and detailed as you can possibly be, and I promise this will be the best decision you've ever made. This is going to give me the strength I need to take real, purposeful action in my life. I am shocked that this is even free. Thank you so much, Jim. I am forever grateful for this gift.
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My open loop
I did the work each week, showed up twice a week, practiced what I was learning. Had the exam sitting there all week and was frozen. Today I closed the loop! πŸ† But the best was yet to come. I have been given a partial scholarship to do the advanced AI course 😊😊😊
My open loop
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Question
One thing I have identified about β€˜ my’ ADHD is that it is very strongly linked to rejection sensitivity dysphoria. @Jim Ebbelaar could you talk more about this tomorrow/day5 please? Many thanks.
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Great question @Fiona Wright Quick answer for now: RSD isn't separate from ADHD. Dr. Gabor MatΓ© puts it perfectly: emotional sensitivity isn't a symptom of ADHD, it's central to what ADHD is. Your brain processes emotional stimuli with more intensity than average. You're not "too sensitive." You have a nervous system that feels things louder. The body sensations you're describing is your nervous system doing what it's designed to do. A trigger fires, your brain produces a chemical reaction, and that cascades through your body before your conscious mind even catches up. That's why it feels so physical and so fast. The goal isn't to stop feeling, the goal is to come back faster. We teach something called the Three-Minute Comeback Protocol in the full program that's specifically built for this. It starts with the body, not the mind, because when you're triggered your thinking brain is offline anyway. The short version: next time a trigger hits, notice where you feel it physically. Chest? Throat? Stomach? Place your hand there. Breathe into it. Just naming the location and sitting with it for 30 seconds already starts to break the loop. That's step one. We go much deeper on this in the 6-week program. It's literally an entire week dedicated to emotional mastery. More on Monday (day 6) πŸ™
Day 4 not done. But maybe that's ok.
But my win is to realize that I have to accept where I am and some things work and some things don't. So far, I am and feel incomplete. My issue continues to be action and not knowledge. Like a smoker, they know it can kill them and it hurts them and all that, and if they could stop with just more knowledge they would. I debated even putting this comment in here because I don't want it to look like criticism. The course itself is great for EVERY brain and every human. But for the adhd procrastinator in overwhelm that looks forward to their evenings where they can do chill and wind down things and actually have time for themselves and be temporarily relieved on the days burdens and lack of interesting things, it is not especially working for me. It seems it is very insightful for many. I am so happy for you all to whom much of this is new. The ai in day 3 zeroed in on one limiting belief and ignored the rest. I know I have several and I'm clear on many, and probably have others that have not been insightfully revealed, which is why I'm still not driven to finish what I start without willpower. Using willpower to create strategy so you don't need willpower doesn't work. That has been my process forever. Then the ai told me on day 3 that it wouldn't reframe for me and on day 4 today that I was very clear on what I knew and to look forward to day 5. Ok then. Not helpful. The basic building blocks of change continue to elude me. Is it easier for people who don't have kids and a mortgage and have sleep issues because of world events and life in general? I never have time for myself except late at night when others go to bed and my only comfort pleasure is late night tv after a long uncomfortable day. I look for stimulation, as is an adhd thing, and when you don't get it during the day you have to find it somewhere. Making my night boring would make the whole day painful. Why would I do that? I don't just want to be more efficient and productive or even just wealthy and more miserable. I want to be fulfilled.
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Elliott, I read every word you've written this week. First thing I want to say: you posted all days. You reflected deeper than most people in this challenge. You showed up even when it felt pointless, that is part of the work.. Now the direct part. You said it yourself: "My issue continues to be action and not knowledge." I agree. But here's what I want you to see: you're still trying to solve an action problem with more knowledge. You came in on Day 1 saying "been there, done that." But if that knowledge worked, you wouldn't be here (don't take this as criticism, just my observation). You said "using willpower to create strategy so you don't need willpower doesn't work." You're right. So what does work? Evidence, not another insight. One tiny completed action that proves to your nervous system you can follow through. You also said: "Something is something and that is better than nothing." That's not a consolation prize, that's the whole philosophy. You already have the answer. You just don't trust it yet because it feels too small. Your "I already know this" feels like a sophisticated form of resistance. It might let you stay where you are while feeling like you're above the process. I say that with zero judgment, hope you get that. Knowing and doing are different parts of the brain. You can know everything about swimming from YouTube and still drown. The gap isn't closed by more knowing. It's closed by getting in the water. Pick your smallest open loop and start finishing it. Not to be productive but just to give your brain one piece of proof that you can start AND finish something. That's how you build evidence. And evidence is the only thing that changes identity. You do fit here, keep showing up. Let me know your thoughts around this πŸ™
Day 3: I said no to delaying πŸ‘
When finishing watching the recording, I had an urge to check social media, but I said NO. Not in a restricting way, but in a "I actually have better things to do" way πŸ˜€ I think my reason for not finishing projects and having trouble doing them in the first place, is the risk of failure. But I realised that for me, failure was not being the best. And that not being the best, is still fine. I have trained to be an illustrator my entire life, but have not actively pursued it, because I could see that many was better than me. What inspired me to try to start around a year ago, was reading books to my kids, where some of the illustrations are really bad technically. But I still had that voice in my head saying "yes, you don't like the illustrations, buy they are illustrating books, you are not, so your illustrations must lack something/is not the style people like" and so on. But maybe it is just because I have not really tried! Speaking of illustrations and looking back, I found this self-portrait from around 20 years ago. It say (from the outside) - Metal. Don't reveal anything going on beneath the smooth surface. - Black granite. Scares most people away, but are maybe not that hard to get through. - Glass. Breaks easily. - ? I don't know yet. And I still don't know. But I will work on my self-image and visualise a respected illustrator, that is finishing her projects without procrastination πŸ‘πŸ˜€
Day 3: I said no to delaying πŸ‘
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