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Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but if you actually watched them socialize, you’d swear they were optimising for numbers, not depth. In this week’s video, I break down the difference between deep connections and shallow/superficial ones – without demonising either. You need both in a healthy life. You don’t want an hour-long heart-to-heart with the gas station attendant. Sometimes “Hey, how’s it going?” is all that’s required. The problem is this: A lot of people are living almost their entire life in shallow mode…even with their partner, family, and closest friends. They’re having the same copy-paste conversations with everyone. Safe topics, small talk, transactional chats at work, “I’m fine, you’re fine, we’re all fine.” No one’s really being vulnerable. Nobody’s showing the bits they’re ashamed of. And then they wonder why they feel lonely, even in a crowded life. In the video, I unpack: - What a shallow connection actually isSafe topics, scripted replies, low emotional intensity, easy to replace. You could swap the person out and hardly notice. - What a deep connection really looks likeVulnerable, unscripted, emotionally charged, memorable. You say things you’ve never said before. You reveal things you’ve never shared. You both allow each other to go deeper and match each other’s honesty. - Why deep connections are so powerfulI talk about a 70-year longitudinal study on happiness that found the single strongest predictor of life satisfaction was having at least one deep, meaningful relationship – not a huge social circle, not surface-level popularity. - The real costs of going deepThis isn’t all sunshine. Deep connections bring grief when they end, less quantity (you can’t go deep with everyone), and more risk: rejection, confrontation, people judging the real you. Once you’ve tasted depth, small talk becomes almost unbearable. - The hidden downside of staying shallowShallow is easy and “safe” in the short term, but long term it’s fragile and lonely. People are replaceable, loyalty is conditional, and you never really get to relax and be fully yourself. -

New: - Welcome new member - Roadmap - free to all above level 2 - Awesome free resources coming out on Wed, stay tuned - 2 hour connection workshop video out later today - New nice guy short course being developed, ready to start coming out later this month - I will be giving free Premium membership to people who post and comment regularly, to promote more engagement In process: - 30 day challenge being designed, aimed to give you clarity and practical guidance for the whole year - start thinking about who you want to be by the end of next year Recognition: - Check out Slava’s find on a brojo anthem - lyrics are solid - Ahmed al Ahmed - hero of Bondi tragedy - bystander effect Reminders: - No more coaching spaces available this month, book now for Jan - Some free courses still available, check post - New performance anxiety vid out last Thurs Weekly challenge: - Write a list of 3-5 core values, and take action on at least one of them