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Brojo: Confidence & Integrity

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39 contributions to Brojo: Confidence & Integrity
Bomb Skool
Snuggle up everyone, it's story time. I’ve always loved water. Jumping into it. Swimming in it. Just being near it. In New Zealand we have this beautiful, slightly unhinged tradition called bombing - jumping into water in a way that creates the biggest splash possible. Not graceful. Not elegant. The goal is chaos. Noise. Water everywhere. The other day I was down at the waterfront at a local swimming-and-jumping spot. It’s one of those places where there are always a few locals who are elite bombers. Huge splashes. Professional commitment. Years of aquatic nonsense under their belts. I wanted to bomb. But then the old fear showed up. What if my splash is tiny? It will be tiny What if people laugh? What if I do this big dramatic leap… and it’s basically a sad puddle? I stood there overthinking the physics of water displacement like my integrity depended on it... Then, I called - bullshit Something clicked from the social confidence challenge Instead of trying to avoid people laughing at me, I reframed it. “What if this is rejection therapy?” “How many rejections can I get?” “How many people can laugh at me today?” Suddenly it wasn’t about the splash anymore. It was about collecting laughs. So I jumped. Bombed. Jumped again. Bombed again. Rather than laughing, people started giving me tips. Sure their were some laughs. But from me, no hesitation. No build-up. Just over and over. Big ones. Awkward ones. Questionable ones. Absolute chaos. And here’s the weird thing. Somewhere along the way, my splash got… better. Not only that - the big splash locals started nodding. Smiling. One even threw out a compliment or a clap. Who knew? Possibly Dan. Now I bomb freely. Joyfully. With confidence. And if someone laughs? Perfect. Ill try to drop some vids at some stage. There is a local council run bomb competition. I'm entering.
2 likes • Jan 2
Wow, that looks like so much fun! I wish I'd come with you when I was in Auckland! Well done on the bravery 👏 (also, nice storytelling skills 😁)
0 likes • 13d
@Jason Stobart oh my gosh, that's incredible! Well done! It really put a smile on my face to watch your video. 😁 Cheers from Italy!
Who's keen for intensive action-taking?
As I've hinted at recently, later in the year I'll be trialling something new: a small group of hand selected people who are pushed over a short intense period of time to seriously level-up, through being held to account and supported to take efficient, brave actions of integrity. There will only be a small percentage of people here who are ready and would benefit from this burst-of-action approach. I want to get a sense of who I should keep in mind for this experience. If you feel that you're ready to drop all hesitancy and content-bingeing, and do a few weeks of intense, focused, highly-valuable behaviour changes, guided and supported by me and others like yourself, comment ACTION below.
1 like • 13d
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🔥 Day 9: Design Your Day (Stop Relying on Motivation)
If your day has no structure, your emotions will make all your decisions. We know how that goes! Discipline is doing what you know you should do, instead of doing what you feel like doing right now. Your task: Design: - A minimum viable morning routine (10–30 mins) - A simple shutdown routine at night (The Morning Routine course in the Classroom will help with this). Include: - One physical action, e.g. exercise in morn, stretching at night - One mental action, e.g. meditation in morn, journaling at night - One integrity action (something you usually avoid), e.g. cold shower in morn, quality time with kids at night Post below: Your morning routine plan... and the thing most likely to derail it.
0 likes • Jan 16
@Prateek G preparing the clothes the night before is a good one! It really takes the stress out of decision-making in the morning
2 likes • Jan 16
I have a morning ritual to add ... I really like Jordan Peterson's advice about making your bed first thing in the morning. I've been doing that for a few years now, and it brings an immediate sense of order and calm to my day.
🔥 DAY 15 – Discipline Beats Motivation
Motivation is unreliable - too emotional to depend on. Discipline is different; it's a rational decision to do what is RIGHT rather than what feels good in the moment. Answer honestly: 1. What do I wait to “feel ready” to do? 2. What would disciplined action look like instead? Then choose one reminder you’ll follow regardless of your mood. E.g. I will often ask myself, “What is the best thing to do right now for my future self’s success?” Post below: “My discipline principle for this year is…”
4 likes • Jan 16
My discipline principle for this year is: When I feel the urge to avoid what I should be doing in favour of something more immediately pleasurable, I give myself permission to do the pleasurable thing — but only after I complete the main task I’m procrastinating on. This framing creates motivation where there was none before, and more often than not, by the time I’ve finished the task, the urge for the “feel-good” distraction has disappeared.
🔥DAY 13 – Your Non-Negotiable Health Baseline
The functioning of your body is the foundation of everything else. Neglect it at your peril. We’re not aiming for perfect, we’re aiming for sustainable. Your task: Define: - Exercise frequency + type - 3–5 simple eating rules This is your bare minimum, even on bad weeks when you’re sick, tired and depressed. Post below: Share your baseline (again, not your ideal).
2 likes • Jan 13
Exercise: Daily. Minimum is a 20-minute walk even when I’m sick or down. In normal weeks I also do Muay Thai and dance. Eating rules: – 80/20 healthy vs indulgent – Mediterranean ingredients as default – Drink ~2L water per day – Eat slowly
3 likes • Jan 14
@Egor Titov the supplements are an interesting point. I like to rotate adaptogens for anxiety (e.g. ashwagandha).
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Dana R
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Working in a start-up in the research sector. Interests: travelling, reading, writing, hiking, boxing ... and eating good food!

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