Time for something fun: the "would you rather...?" game! 😁🤔 I'll start us off with a tough one: Would you rather ask out a complete stranger? OR Stand up to a bully who's been bothering you for years? Looking forward to your questions and answers! 👍😎

I read this thismorning, and thought I'd share it in here.. We cannot simultaneously set a boundary and take care of another person’s feelings. It’s impossible; the two acts contradict. What a tremendous asset to have compassion for others! How difficult that same quality can make it to set boundaries! It’s good to care about other people and their feelings; it’s essential to care about ourselves too. Sometimes, to take good care of ourselves, we need to make a choice. Some of us live with a deeply ingrained message from our family, or from church, about never hurting other people’s feelings. We can replace that message with a new one, one that says it’s not okay to hurt ourselves. Sometimes, when we take care of ourselves, others will react with hurt feelings. That’s okay. We will learn, grow, and benefit by the experience; they will too. The most powerful and positive impact we can have on other people is accomplished by taking responsibility for ourselves, and allowing others to be responsible for themselves. Caring works. Caretaking doesn’t. We can learn to walk the line between the two. Today, I will set the limits I need to set. I will let go of my need to take care of other people’s feelings and instead take care of my own. I will give myself permission to take care of myself, knowing it’s the best thing I can do for myself and others.

Congrats to @Tyler Scott for winning a free 1:1 coaching session (worth $650) for being the most active member in Brojo over the last 7 days. Thanks to all of you who contributed to this group and gave us something interesting and helpful to read. Let's keep it up! Cheers Dan

Just at a petrol station, filled up, was aware of some toxic masculine push n shove over the other side of the fore court. I thought not much of it, except to keep away from it. I react badly to male ego battling around me. But loo and behind, I decided to go to tge loo, was almost at tge door and one of the aforementioned said wgo blokes wiped in, pushed oadt me and shut the door in my face. I was fuckibg gobsmacked .... I walked back out , telling the teller what had happened. Tgen the red faced ego bloke comes up past me, and I decided not to do my normal wimp out, so I said to him, "you pushed in front of me". My clear honest assertion enabled my fear of aggressive men to subside, so I guess i more or less matched energies . This fuckbwit then proceeded to tell me I was wrong, I might have been walking to the drinks, he didn't see me, he told me I could think lies if I wanted. I just kept saying "you pushed in front of me" in the ole broken record. I was still a bit worried I might get fearful,or he might get angrier, but I knew my truth, said nothing but my truth as he over protested, justified,ghosted, etc, me . .. So pretty silly, fairly humorous, but for me a win of holding my truth, holding my honesty and not backing down

Most financial stress comes from avoidance leading to mismanagement, not lack of money. Your task: Write down: - Monthly income (average) in the hand i.e. after tax - Fixed costs - rent, food, power, petrol etc. - Variable spending - average you spend on non-necessary things e.g. subscriptions, eating out, clothes - Savings / debt - totals Then ask: “What would need to change about my money behavior to align with my values (and ensure I don’t spend more than I earn)?” Post below: Share one realization you had (no numbers needed).