Hey guys Firstly, my deepest appreciation to all of you for being part of the group, especially those who interact on the feed and bring some ideas and life into the discussions. I have analytics on Skool that show me many of you are "lurking" - I can see that people read posts and visit the group, occasionally comment (usually when I'm doing some sort of free giveaway), but otherwise don't really post or support others with comments. I want to know what I can do to improve that. I want this to be a place where you feel encouraged and safe to participate actively, help others and share your experience along the way. I've tried a few things already, like 30 day challenges and polls and giveaways, but most of you remain silent. I know one sure-fire way is to make this group paid-only (remove the free membership tier). This is a last resort for me, but I'm running out of ideas. If you want this group to remain free, comment below (or DM me privately if you're not ready to be seen publicly) and let me know what I can do to increase your active participation. Let's build this thing together and have everyone giving in to the group. Cheers Dan

In the email screenshot attached, you can see a dilemma my client is going through re committing to his girlfriend. Here is my response: Hey mate From my observations, fear of commitment, especially in Nice Guys, usually comes from 5 main sources 1. Commitment feels like a promise you're not sure you can keep (i.e. confusing committing NOW with a promise that you'll still be committed LATER) 2. Shame / not good enough beliefs, leading you to think I can't commit because I'll get my heart broken when I'm later "discovered" for who I really am and rejected 3. Being a bad "ender", i.e. fearing commitment because you don't trust yourself to end things later if you change your mind, so your commitment would keep you trapped in something you don't want 4. A limiting belief that certainty is a required feeling, i.e. you can't commit until you're "sure" it's a good idea 5. FOMO - thinking that commitment - focusing on one - means missing out on others/many In brief, here are my counters to each of these limiting, inaccurate, and illogical beliefs 1. Commitment just means fully showing up NOW. If you don't phrase it as a promise (e.g. "I promise to always love you), and instead frame it as a commitment, you will feel safer e.g. "I love you and in this moment you're the only person I want to be with, and that's all I can guarantee you". 2. Take it one day at a time. Rather than commiting to a future relationship, just ask yourself, "Do I want to be with her just one more day?" If the answer is yes, then you don't need to worry about anything (e.g. rejection) until after the next day together is completed. 3. Work on your confrontation and boundary setting skills. Prove to yourself that you can end commitments, e.g. quit a gym you no longer use, cut off a toxic friend, permanently give up on a hobby that you're no longer passionate about. Once you show yourself that you won't be trapped by guilt and obligation, then you won't fear making bigger commitments. 4. You can't be certain about something that you haven't yet experienced. You can only be certain about your past experiences. Have your experiences with her been enjoyable? If so, the most likely predictor of the future is the past. That's all you'll ever have to go on. As my old coach once said, "Go when your 80% ready, that's as much as you'll ever be."

Hey guys, in the interest of giving back, and to test out a new platform called JoinMuse, I'm going to offer 3 coaching sessions per week at just $20 each (that's like at 97% discount or something). There are conditions: - only for people who have filled out one of my quizzes or have had a free trial coaching session with me before (apply here) - only for people who literally cannot afford my normal coaching rate (i.e. you would if you could, you're not just scared to invest) - you want to prioritize dating/relationships with laser focused practical coaching - you're happy to give me a review on the platform to boost my profile First in, first served. If you meet the above conditions and want to grab one of these limited sessions, comment KEEN below and I'll send you the link. Cheers Dan P.S. this is for a limited time only, once I'm established on the platform I'll be raising my rates

I recently found myself out of work. The Agency I work for stopped contacting me, and even responding to my calls and messages. This has left me in some real financial stress at a time when I was just breaking free from debt. I started to think the universe was trying to break me. Daft, right? Like the whole fucking Universe gives a damn about me. But that was how I have been feeling. What I feel is worse is that I am procrastinating on finding a new job. I would be thinking about what to do, finding some pathways and saying " I'll do it later". Then I realised that I have spent my whole life ( I'm memory) doing this. I'll do it tomorrow, I'll do it when I get paid etc etc. Now, even though I have become aware of this, breaking free from this is stupidly hard. Even with advice and techniques to help, I find myself not doing anything and suddenly finding it's dark or past a deadline and I feel a sense of failure. It is INFURIATING!!

Hey guys, here's the recording from today's Brotherhood session. Today we went deep with Ben about why he's losing motivation with approaching strangers even though he's seeing progress and it aligns with his values https://www.skool.com/brojo-brotherhood-2147/classroom/69942c19?md=655ea883eed94813b0156df79ed7e1f3 Enjoy!