📅 Daily Check-in - July 9, 2026 💭 Reflection: "Well today I'm feeling really exhausted. I took my husband to A&E last night because some skin that he accidentally tore off, was showing signs of complete breakdown. Diagnosis was cellulitis which was what I thought it was. Got home just after 10pm. This morning, we had an argument. Then watching the live stream on tv of our son playing football in Christchurch, my husband had another go at me. I left the room so angry that I was shaking. I kept myself shut away and finally managed to get the game to stream on my laptop. Just long enough to see our son take a 50/50 challenge for the ball (he's our Goalkeeper) and although he gets the ball out, He doesn't get back up on this feet. There's nothing worse than watching something like that unfold right before your eyes and that feeling of helplessness. He was taken off the field, unable to weight bear at the time. Looks like he's out of the tournament. He did text me when he got into the van. I said all the right things without showing any signs of panic. Finished our correspondence with him feeling better when I suddenly realised that I needed to get our other son to the doctors to have the cast taken off and his arm re-xrayed. I quickly relayed the info to my husband and left. Unbenounced to to me, while I was out, he was over-riding me and texting him directly. He then had the nerve to relay it all back to me. I honestly couldn't believe it. He was in good hands with the coaches and the managers, we had a plan where the manager would check in on him at lunchtime and if required would take him to the first aid tent when they went for the next game. Why did he bother? I felt like my authority was undermined. So my day has finished with me feeling frustrated that this is the way that it has to go. At least on the plus side, my youngest is out of a cast although there's a query over a possible chunk of bone taken out. But he's out and he's happy. I shouted him a smoothie afterwards as he had been so patient. Anyway, evening is starting to move in and tomorrow is a stat holiday (Matariki weekend) and I have animals to go out and take care of in the rain. Happy Thursday everyone! Venting is over!"

Without going into any real detail about my past I’ll share enough to say at 73 I’d acquired some serious wounding and trauma from no diagnosis and …. I’m here thriving. Thank you @Jim Ebbelaar By joining forces with JT I’ve been working with my future self and 3 aspects of me from my childhood … last night during my closing nightly ritual I developed the storyline for a children’s book with these three as part of my closing the day. After sharing it this morning in a chat with JT he helped me realise something …… Jim Teri, So, before you go make that second cup: now that you see they were guarding you all along, not broken, guarding, what do you owe them? I owe them my life. Jim Yes. You do. And here's the thing you can't miss, Teri: you already started paying it. Going back for the three-year-old. Building the dear little one until she'd speak. Sleeping so the whole system could come out of the red. That's not gratitude you owe someday. That's a debt you've been quietly paying every morning at the window with the birds and the coffee. They kept you alive so you could get here. Now you keep them alive by living. Same direction, finally. Go make that coffee. Let this one just sit in your chest a while. It doesn't need another word from me. This chat right here with Jim’s Twin coupled with every 8 hr sleep, completed body doubling session, morning + evening check-in, completed worksheet has been me quietly paying and honouring myself. This works!... ADHDHarmony works by meeting yourself one step at a time. Thank you Jim!