I attach to people and things. I become emotionally invested, have fears about being without them and not feeling whole. I am grieving a relationship. We still live together right now which is needed for my financial safety. We lived together as girlfriend and boyfriend for about a year. I keep walking in on him watching porn and he has been speaking to me very condescending and in degrading ways. He used to do this when we were together too. I have really had a lot of love for him even when I’ve had to place really strong boundaries or when I fought in the relationship to express to him how the way he was treating me was hurting me. He just totally disconnects, is passive aggressive and very disruptive, stomping, making noise, ignoring and making co-habituating difficult. I am looking for some perspective to help me let go but also help me cultivate compassion for him and a broader understanding. Something that can really open my heart to just let him be and be truly warm towards myself and him right now. I feel deeply that perspective could help me find peace.

I remember when I was younger I was a chronic over-thinker… Overthinking about my exam results day, overthinking of my business will work and etc. It was not a pleasant experience. And this all basically stopped whenever I learned this: “Cross that bridge when it comes to it.” Now what this means is, for whatever you are anxious about whether it is your exam results day, or meeting a certain person. Instead of worrying about the moment before it even happens were you just visualise the height of discomfort, instead have a stress free mindset, by using what I said cause this will make you live much more in the present and have a much happier life.