As promised, here are a few reads that stayed with me over the years. Not because they were “nice books”. But because each one left a fingerprint on how I think, feel, and move through life. Psycho-Cybernetics (Maxwell Maltz) This one taught me that self image runs everything. If you keep “seeing yourself” as the person who quits, procrastinates, or disappoints, you will keep living that loop. Change the inner picture, and behavior starts to follow. The Untethered Soul (Michael A. Singer) Big reminder: you are not the voice in your head. You are the one who hears it. When I really started practicing that, the mental noise lost a lot of power. The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle) I read this while traveling in Thailand and I applied it immediately. It was honestly bizarre how quickly you can feel the difference when you stop living inside “later” or “what if” and return to the present. It was one of the first times I experienced peace as something practical, not philosophical. The Expectation Effect (David Robson) This gave me a grounded, research-backed way to understand something we all feel: what you expect shapes what you experience. He uses practical examples and data around placebo and nocebo effects, where positive expectations can improve outcomes and negative expectations can worsen them. Mastery (Robert Greene) This book helped me connect the dots back to childhood. Greene argues your “Life’s Task” often leaves clues early on, in what you were naturally drawn to before the world told you what was “useful.” What hit me most is how many masters went through a real shift after years of apprenticeship. A phase where they stopped copying and started experimenting, and something more intuitive and original switched on. He uses biographies of people like Darwin and Einstein to show that pattern. Reality Transurfing (Vadim Zeland) This one goes deeper for me than “just think positive.” The idea that stuck is reducing “importance.” The more you overcharge a goal with pressure, identity, or desperation, the more you create inner tension and weird resistance. Another concept is “pendulums,” basically dramas or group energies that try to hook your attention. When you stop feeding them with emotional charge, you get your energy back and you move cleaner.

Hello everyone 😀 I'm curious about how you guys are doing with the morning/ evening routines? Are you keeping up with it? What works good for you? Can you notice any difference? Do you have any of your own positive routines you want to share?

Ok to remove if its not allowed Jim! I wanna give a tip for ppl who want more stability in their day to day life. I downloaded Finch and it’s free to use. Now I can use microwins when I remember to shower, read a book before bedtime or just tell myself that I’m good enough. You can add me as a friend and we can hold each other accountable. My friendcode: WSY5HTFZT3. I think I have abit of autism as well because I have always needed lists. But when I fail doing the things on the list I have always felt bad about it. I have now used this program 50 days in a row and it is a huge win for me. I’m the generation of the tamagotchis so the little bird feels like a pet for me 😀

Hi, my name is Shanon, I’m from the great American state of Tennessee, and I am currently a SAHM of a 4 y/o. I am just recently realizing I might be as ADHD as my (diagnosed in childhood) brother. So happy to have come across Jim and this challenge! Excited to figure out how best to stop beating myself up and start understanding and tapping into my non-standard "operating system." You can ask me questions about: - Anything you want, as long as you don't require expert answers ;-) - Mom-life and home-schooling (early days since me and the wee one are just getting started) - The Bible! I am a Christian and a bit of a Bible research nerd. I want to get these things from ADHD Harmony: 1. Recognizing my masking behaviors and peeling them away to see (and let others see) who I truly am and where I need to grow to become my best future self. Can't get where I am going I I don't know where I'm starting from. 2. Tools to help me develop systems that really work WITH my brain instead of beating my head against the wall. 3. Understand ADHD better, for myself and to be a better sister for my brother. Also, for my son. I see him struggling with things that may be indicators that he inherited my special squirrely brain powers. If so, I want to understand better so I can help him grow up understanding his special operating system instead of feeling broken and just not good enough like I did. For fun, I like to: 1. Read, pretty much anything, but the Bible and mystery/political thriller novels have special places in my heart. 2. Sing and dance! Mostly randomly in the kitchen, car, or grocery aisles. 3. Solve puzzles of all kinds. Except for Rubick's cubes. I loathe those.

🎭 The mask I've been wearing: of not wanting to be noticed for being too good or being a problem. 😮‍💨 How exhausting it's been: It;s exhausting because hiding is exhausting, especially when I really want to Shiite] 👶 What I loved as a kid (before the masks): I really wanted to read and write from my own unique perspective instead of trying not to stand out.. ⚡️ Friction Audit complete — This are the exact steps i have to take: My a list of all my open loops, categorize them by priority and type, make sure that any action item with 2 or more steps is actually broken down into all the steps, determine which steps or dependent on other steps. Prioritize items and put them on my calendar.