I currently don’t work due to anxiety and depression. I am totally on my own here in Norfolk UK so am hoping to move closer to family. I spend most of my time procrastinating (in and out of bed), listening to podcasts, and to top it off, a bit more procrastinating. My main hobby is procrastinating about decluttering a whole load of my belongings so that I can move to a tiny flat 🫣 I’m hoping ADHD Harmony will teach me how to stop blooming procrastinating!!

Insight: "You don't have a task-doer brain. You have a meaning-maker brain." This highlighted with amazing clarity why I had such a difficult time in a workpartnership many years ago that didn't work. I was with someone who only knew how to do tasks. My approach to my role was to try to find the meaning, which is about finding something that makes the work interesting, and worthwhile. Why bother otherwise?! I never found any confirmation that there was any value in what I had to offer: my vision. Even just identifying the problems, or opportunities. Possibilities. None of that had value, and I took that to mean that I had no value. 30 years later... I understand that maybe I did have value, in that role, but there was no way for me to offer what I had to offer. I moved on, but felt guilty and ashamed and of no value for being 'useless' after that. Now I can revise my opinion of myself. That's going to be powerful, isn't it?! How about you? How's your opinion of yourself? I hope it can be a kind one. I watched a short film about someone with ADHD last night. Only 14 minutes. But enough to make me weep with resonance, anguish, sadness. At the end, there was a hint of hope. It wasn't about being broken, just different. What was most powerful, I decided, was the opinion the main character had of herself. ok, that got a bit deep. Too deep? Too much? Open loop? I didn't get what I chose done, last time I did this challenge. I think it was too big. I like the guideline that said choose something that will take no more than 20 minutes. Something doable. I want to show myself that I can complete it. I can close a loop. What shall I choose? Something I HAVE to do is move several email accounts from a webhost account that is closing in about a week. I have a new webhost account, so I need to find out what to do. And do it. I hope it will take no more than 20 minutes. After that... a new website, but leave that be, for now! One word about how I feel right now? Sad.

Just arriving in my usual fashion. I'll keep it brief (Hmmm... let's see...). I'm not loving the perimenopause / ADHD combo (not officially diagnosed but let's just say I have a VIP pass to the Neurospicy lounge...) BUT I do love learning, new stuff, performing, community, connection, having fun and meeting new people. So I look forward to meeting some of you! :-) Oh, and I'm in Cambridgeshire, UK. :-)

I’m writing this with the tears drying on my face. The insight’s have not just landed, they have changed how I look at myself and the judgements that I have made. I can see the doorway I just need to find how to open it.

Hi, my name is Nik , I’m from the Cotswolds, UK, and I work as a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist and Coach. I support a lot of people with anxiety, stress, trauma, and going through life and career transitions. You can ask me questions about: - Self-regulation/nervous system balance - Internal dialogue - Energy and state management - Communication skills I want to get these things from ADHD Harmony: 1. A different perspective 2. Community 3. Improved understanding For fun, I like to: 1. Walk in these beautiful hills and immerse in nature 2. Go down research rabbit holes 3. Share hypnotherapy and coaching sessions Share a picture(s) of something meaningful to you or your workspace (: