Hello all! I have loved being a part of this group and observing the wins as well as the authenticity when we share where we get stuck or scared and receive so much love and support from everyone! I love learning so much I signed up for too many classes this fall (several for counseling CEU's plus a vigorous AI implantation system) and am way behind in a lot of things so I haven't been active here. I also need to keep an eye on my group and clients and local networking groups that also have places to post. Scaling is supposed to be about letting go of the 80% and somehow I keep adding things! Also most of you know that there was a school shooting in my small town and since I am part of a non- profit that gives students 10 free counseling sessions (started 5 years ago) unfortunately and fortunately I have been able to be there to support teens and families through this traumatic event. Also, I had an amazing trip to visit my daughter in Korea and both kids are launched and settling in as my husband is SLOWLY building his consulting business. Perhaps he will have some income before the end of the year? Fortunately he was good at setting money aside when he was working corporate so we have been able to rely on savings... for a year and now retirement funds (going on . Not ideal but he is going on month 17 and has some good potential clients... it will only take a few and he will be set and wants to retire in a few years. So yes I shared in last Friday's call that I had some miracle breakthroughs in 2 important areas in my life. Overall I have been focused on family so... I have been saying I "10'x'd my quality time with family". And in the meantime, I was not focused on growing my business for several years of other priorities and including my mom with a terminal illness, etc, etc. I found myself in over $100k of debt and was at some level at peace about it because I knew I could pay it back but other times I was incredulous at how in the heck that happened! I was always smart with money when I was younger and never had any debt including student loans until I started down the rabbit hole of the coaching industry over 12 years ago and then always had some lingering around.

As promised after getting "enough" likes, here's part 2 of Ben Hardy jargon, and today I'm gonna roast Dan Sullivan and his Silent Generation wisdom. (Once I get 15 likes, I'll do part 3.) 1. 4Cs – CONFIDENCE DOESN'T COME FROM FAKING IT "Confidence doesn’t come from faking it till you make it. It comes from committing to something and surviving the emotional hangover." If there’s one personal-development mantra that has doomed more Boomers in front of Gen Z faster than they can roll their eyes, it’s "fake it till you make it." We’ve all bought into the fantasy that if we fake confidence long enough, somehow we’ll magically morph into the person we need to be. I’ve seen more ridiculousness come from this than an Amway meeting full of aging men in black coats shouting about "going Diamond." That’s not confidence. That’s cosplay. Dan + Ben are basically saying: You don’t think your way into confidence. You commit your way into confidence. And for us Gen X / older millennials: It’s like the first time you signed a 12-month gym contract in the 2000s. You weren’t confident. You were held hostage by autopay. That’s commitment. Or the day you said "I do" in front of everyone. Not because you were confident you’d be a perfect spouse, but because you just unlocked a DLC called "Time to grow up." Here’s the 4Cs in human language: a) Commitment The moment you lock yourself in. You sign the form, say yes, send the deposit, announce the decision, put something at stake. You cross the line where backing out becomes embarrassing, expensive, or spiritually illegal. It’s the decision that forces you to show up. b) Courage The emotional nausea phase. You’re not ready. You don’t feel qualified. Your brain is screaming. But you move anyway. Courage isn’t bravery. Courage is: "I’m terrified, but this matters more than my fear." c) Capability Your body and brain adapt. You get better because you stayed in the discomfort long enough to stop sucking. It’s the phase where:

A lot of people in this group use a lot of “Ben Hardy jargon,” so I came up with a cheat sheet for those who aren’t familiar with Dr. Benjamin Hardy’s books — so you can finally figure out what the heck we’re talking about when we get carried away. 1. Gap vs Gain This is Hardy’s version of “stop being a self-sabotaging psycho.” Gap: You measure yourself against an imaginary ideal. You always feel behind, not enough, not there yet. You’re basically comparing your Chapter 2 to someone else’s Chapter 67. Gain: Like Steve Jobs, you learn to connect the dots backwards — who you were vs who you are today. You build confidence by noticing progress, not perfection. Why focusing on gains matters: Because what you focus on expands. Focus on gaps (lack), and you’ll get even more of it — our brains are wired that way. But if you look for gains, you’ll gain more and more good stuff. Translation: Stop torturing yourself. Stop mind-fucking yourself. Look at your gains — that’s where confidence is built. 2. Letting Go of the 80% This is not some “donate all your money to charity and disappear into a mountain temple” kind of shit. It’s about letting go of a cemetery of: - old identities - dead projects - stale habits - emotional clutter - and that one friend who only calls when their life is on fire Think of it as Marie Kondo meets Bruce Lee. Does it spark joy? No? Then flow like water and let that shit go. Here’s the truth most people avoid: Your future self can’t walk in if your past self is still haunting the hallway. The 80% is everything you’ve outgrown — but keep carrying out of guilt, fear, or habit. Letting go isn’t minimalism; it’s evolution. It’s pruning dead branches so your destiny has room to grow. When you drop the 80%, your path clears. Your energy rises. Translation: Stop hoarding versions of yourself that no longer serve you. You need an intervention. You can’t accelerate while keeping one foot on the brake. 3. The Impossible Goal Most people hear “impossible goal” and think it means you need to go full Elon Musk, colonize Mars, and invent a robot that folds laundry.

Sharing some pre-event thoughts…

As a result of my “going for no” yesterday and making ten asks, my potential super who replied instantly and agreed to meet with me the next morning: I asked him to pick his business brain about me going B2B instead of B2C. We had an awesome conversation today. He suggested that he send an email to the 400 homeowners that live in the housing development that he created and encourage people to join HIM in going through my 8 week program. He also came up with the idea that he would reach out to the superintendent of our school district (one of the largest in the state) to talk to them about what I’m doing. Wow!