The other morning I watched the NJ blizzard from inside my warm office. The house was quiet. Outside? Chaos. Wind raging. Snow flying. The house frame shook under pressure. And it struck me: The house wasn’t built to prevent storms. It was built to stand in them. Storms don’t have to determine the climate inside. In business, in leadership, in motherhood — pressure will come. Deadlines. Decisions. Financial tension. Team friction. Personal relationship challenges. Health concerns. We often try to calm the outside first. But steadiness starts within. For me, that anchor is Jesus. Storms don’t just test us. They train us. And that training — if we allow it — is what forms anti-fragility. How is anti-fragility being formed in your life right now?

This is the bridge to Anti-Fragile. We’re not trying to be perfect, we’re trying to become harder to knock off 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐭 𝟏 — 𝐅𝐑𝐀𝐌𝐄: 𝐀 𝐋𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐅𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 Write 8–10 lines from you, 12 weeks ahead, to you today. Include these sentences (finish them honestly): - “The biggest shift wasn’t my strategy. It was my standard around ______.” - “I stopped calling ______ ‘my personality’ and started seeing it as a pattern.” - “The moment I began changing was when I finally admitted ______.” - “If you want what I have now, protect your attention by ______.” - “The one thing you need to stop negotiating with is ______.” Don’t be harsh. Be clear. Future-you isn’t judging you — they’re rescuing you. 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐭 𝟐 — 𝐅𝐋𝐎𝐎𝐑: 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐅𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐌𝐚𝐩 (𝐍𝐨 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞, 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐚) Complete these lines like you’re collecting facts: - “I feel most fragile when ______.” - “When that happens, my default move is ______ (control / withdraw / numb / overwork / perform / people-please).” - “That default protects me from feeling ______.” - “But it costs me ______.” - “A real Floor would protect me by keeping ______ true, even when I’m stressed.” This isn’t a character flaw. It’s a nervous-system habit. Habits can be retrained. 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐭 𝟑 — 𝐅𝐎𝐂𝐔𝐒: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐀𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 Answer as calmly and specifically as you can: - “If someone watched how I spend my attention, they’d say I’m becoming ______.” - “The identity I say I’m building is ______.” - “The gap exists because I keep choosing the ‘false win’ of ______.”(planning instead of shipping, staying liked instead of being direct, consuming instead of creating, comfort instead of proof) - “The truth I don’t want to admit (but I’m ready to) is ______.” - “If I were sturdier under pressure, I would ______.”

This morning I woke up before the sun. No alarm. No urgency. Just quiet… the kind that feels like balm. I poured iced tea and sat with God. Not to “get ahead.” To get grounded. To come back to myself before the day tries to take me. Because during the week, I don’t usually lose to meetings. I lose to urgency. Urgency is one of my strengths. It helps me compete. Execute. Overcome. And if I’m not careful, it also makes me reckless with what matters. It pulls me out of the system I’ve created; out of rhythm, out of prayer, out of center, and convinces me it’s “responsibility” when it’s really just pressure wearing a suit. That’s the trap with strengths: the same thing that makes you dangerous can make you drift. So Saturday shows up like mercy. Not a catch-up day. A return day. For me, Saturday is for systems creation, the kind that puts a finish line on the week. Not so I can do less… but so I can live aligned. My favorite verse is simple and it keeps correcting me: “Walk by faith, not by sight.” Because sight says, “It’s not there yet, push harder.” Faith says, “Stay steady, build what lasts.” Even when things aren’t exactly where I want them, I’m learning to wait without leaking my soul into the week. Suddenly is coming. And when it does, I’ll understand why the wait was so long.

Sorry everyone. I haven’t had the time to finalize the agenda for today to pass along for someone to lead. My apologies. Thank you for all the kind messages. Much appreciated.

I hope each of you get a chance to dig into this document. This is what I was referring to on last week's call. If you take a few minutes to think about the questions, it will work your way into Identity. Our emotions drive our directions at times. When we can point to where we are on the emotional ride, it makes things a little easier.