I received this email today and I wanted to share. The author is an aromatherapist and this is a marketing email, but I thought it to be so rich in insight. "My 20-minute drive into town has become one of my teachers. I watch how people move on the road. The impatient ones pressing forward before there's room. The cars riding side by side, unaware they've created a wall behind them. Then, every so often, someone shifts lanes, just enough to make space. And suddenly, everything begins moving again. It seems a bit mundane, but it offers a simple doorway into some deeper insights. Where in our own lives are we holding position without realizing it? Where are we so focused on our own pace that we unintentionally make it harder for someone else to move forward? And where could one small adjustment create ease? Creating space can look like listening longer. Softening our grip. Letting someone grow without needing to manage what that growth looks like. Noticing when we're tightening around our own place, and choosing to make room instead. When we allow more space within ourselves, it becomes easier to offer it to others. And from that place, we can support, encourage, and genuinely want to see one another move forward."

During the call last week, I shared how before creating my To Do list for the next day, I first make a Done list for the current day. I do this at the end of each day, it is non-negotiable. If I don't, I will find myself mentally creating a list, which reminds me to go write it down before going to bed. I've attached a week's worth as an example. I started it as a way to stay focused, (Focus is my word for this year) and to track what was completed to facilitate invoicing, but have noticed other benefits. The biggest one is that it brings me back to the Gain. Writing out my Done list each day carves out time to reflect on the Gain. Reviewing the lists each Friday before planning the next week puts me in a Gain frame of mind. Even when I don't complete much of my To Do list, comparing it to the Done list give insights that have helped me improve my focus. A common mistake is writing a multi-day project as if it is a task. I have gotten better at making sure I only write tasks in my daily To Do list. When I only accomplish part of the task, I include the actual task completed in my Done list. Another insight is that I need to under schedule my days if I want to have any hope of completing the list, because stuff always comes up. That is why the Done list often includes items that were not on the prior To Do list. Priorities will change throughout the day, but the top priority is least likely to change. Do it first. Staying focused is easier with shorter lists, 3 items is best but hard to do. More than that is OK if they are small, but then I need to prioritize them so that I stay focused. Otherwise I find myself switching back and forth every time I get distracted.

Are you all open to going back to book learning? While I love Ben’s stuff, it gets stale. Or maybe it’s just me. If it’s a “YES,” I’d like to suggest a book that I’ve enjoyed: Beyond Belief: The Science-Backed Way to Stop Limiting Yourself and Achieve Breakthrough Results (released March 10, 2026) by Nir Eyal, with Julie Li, explores how hidden, self-limiting beliefs dictate our actions and offers science-backed methods to replace them. It introduces the "Three Powers of Belief"—Attention, Anticipation, and Agency—to help readers reshape their mental models for improved health, relationships, and career success. If “Yes,” but a different book, provide your suggestion in the comments.

I love this so much! New reframe into a new habit! Thanks to Dwayne, I updated the link. https://x.com/abuchanlife/status/2011243915798782120?s=20

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