Quick story. A few years ago I'm at a meet watching a girl swim the 200 free. She touches the wall, rips her goggles off, looks up at the board. New best time. Half a second faster. And then - before she even reacts to her own swim - she does the thing every single swimmer on earth does. She looks up into the stands. Straight at her mum. She read her mum's face before she read her own race. I've thought about that moment a hundred times since, because it explains something nobody warns swim parents about: your kid is racing two clocks. The one on the wall, and the one on your face. Now here's where it gets a little uncomfortable. Stay with me, it ends well. I was watching this neuroscientist, Dr Joe Dispenza, and he drops this stat: we think around 60'000-70'000 thoughts a day. Fine. But then.. 90% of them are the exact same thoughts we had yesterday. 90%!!!!! Which, as a parent and former swimmer made me laugh out loud, because I know exactly what those thoughts are. I've heard them in the car park at 5:40am. They go something like: - "Is she actually improving, or are we just.. paying for this?" - "He's been on that phone for three hours." - "Aiden's mum said Aiden dropped two seconds. TWO." - "Is the coach even watching him down in lane 6?" - "What if she burns out, quits, and somehow it's my fault for pushing?" Same thoughts. Same drive. Same knot in the stomach. Every. Single. Day. And Dispenza's whole point is this: the same thoughts create the same feelings, which drive the same behaviour, which make the same day, which produce the same thoughts. It's a loop. And by the time you're a grown adult, about 95% of it runs on autopilot.. like a program you didn't choose and can't remember installing. (He calls it "becoming a set of memorised programs." I prefer "swim-parent brain on 5:40am autopilot." Same thing.) Here's the part that actually got me. Your kid is standing on the side of the pool. Dripping. Gutted. A race that didn't go their way. And the very first input they get - before the coach, before the clock even fully lands - is your face.

A few months ago, a mom messaged me after her daughter's regional meet. "𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦. 𝘕𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘥-𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘚𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥-𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘐 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦, 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰." Her daughter had been dropping time in training all season. Race day? She added 3 seconds to her PB. sometimes more :( And on the drive home, nobody spoke. I know that drive. I've been in that car - as the swimmer. Here's what I've learned after working with over 200 private clients and being an Olympian myself: It's not a talent problem. It's not a coaching problem. It's not even a nerves problem. It's a pattern - and it gets worse the longer you ignore it. The good news? You don't need to fix your kid. You need to understand what's actually happening so you can be the support system they need... without accidentally adding more pressure. That's exactly what I'm going to show you. -------------------- 𝗧𝗛𝗘 3-𝗗𝗔𝗬 𝗣𝗔𝗥𝗘𝗡𝗧 𝗖𝗛𝗔𝗟𝗟𝗘𝗡𝗚𝗘 How to best support your swimmer - without adding any pressure. 📅 April 28 - 30 | 9:00 - 9:30 PM CET 📍 Live on Zoom ⏱ 3 x 30 minutes 🎁 BONUS Q&A session on May 1st Can't make it live? No problem. You get full access to the recordings for an entire week. Watch on your own time - it works just as well. -------------------- Here's what we'll cover in 3 days: 𝗗𝗮𝘆 1 - Why race anxiety isn't "just nerves" (and what's actually going on inside your swimmer's nervous system that nobody talks about) 𝗗𝗮𝘆 2 - The #1 thing parents do that accidentally makes pressure worse - and a simple shift that changes everything 𝗗𝗮𝘆 3 - The exact system we use with swimmers at Swimpros to build race-day confidence that sticks (not just a pep talk that wears off by warm-up) This is for you if: ✅ Your swimmer trains like a beast but races below their ability ✅ You've tried the "just relax and have fun" talk and it didn't work ✅ You feel helpless behind the fence on race day ✅ You're tired of the silent car rides home

I just launched the next SwimPros 3-Day Parent Challenge: Confidence Edition inside our Swimpros Skool community! 🔥 👉 Use the free 3 days to go through my full Confidence framework, where I teach you everything you need to help your swimmer race like they train: 🎓The Confidence Gap: Why kids who train confident race anxious, and the 3 mental hurdles every competitive swimmer faces 🎓The Pre-Race Confidence Routine: The 5-minute protocol your swimmer can run before every race 🎓The Parent Playbook: What to say (and what NOT to say) in the car, on deck, and after the race You can take the routine, the breathing protocol, and the race-day checklist and leave... OR decide to stay after the 3 days and unlock the Swimpros 4-Week New PB Sprint, Tenerife elite camps, and the year-round Performance Academy, so you can turn your swimmer from "trains great, races flat" into a kid who actually shows up on race day... And most importantly, you see a BIG smile on their face!!! Why learn from me? ✅ Got coached 1-1 by Michael Phelps' sports psychologist at the University of Virignia (Gretchen Walsh, Kate Douglass etc.) ✅ 80% of swimmers leave our camps with a personal best because their mind no longer limited them. The camp guarantee has been claimed zero times in 4 years ✅ Hundreds of swim families through this challenge - check some of the success stories here ✅ Run this challenge every single month.. the system is dialed in 👉 Click the link and join the challenge now: https://www.skool.com/mindgympro/calendar?eid=08a4d419a1044fca886c8bc2e290f1e8&eoid=1779822000 Any questions or concerns let me know in the comments below :)

This is PART 1 of the Parent Mastermind that just happened. Appreciate everyone who attended live and sorry for the abrupt ending - clicked the wrong button 🤣 PART 2 will be the first comment below 👇 🔥 Next up: The legendary 3-Day Challenge for swim parents starts next week!!! 3x30mins. 100% FREE. Exclusive for this Skool group. No pitch unless you ask me. Calendar details: https://www.skool.com/mindgympro/calendar

are there any parents that I could message that have had a child on a Tenerife camp already that has travelled solo? Just got a few questions. Thanks 😊