Screening for crazy As one who is hiring an employee for a position wants to test an applicants response to information they do not want to hear, so should men when it comes to dating. For example, assuming that most people do not want to work on Saturdays, asking an applicant if they would be willing to work on Saturdays will tell you several things. 1) If the applicant really wants them job and deals well with disappointment they will agree to work Saturdays. They might say that they would prefer not to, but would be willing to if that is what the job required. This is a healthy regulated response to information they are disappointed to hear. 2) If the applicant tries to negotiate to not work Saturdays then they clearly think they are on an equal playing field with the employer. They see their application as an opportunity for the employer. 3) If the applicant gets offended then you know they are a bomb waiting to exploded... If the applicant has genuine burning desire for the job and deals well with disappointment they will respond relatively well to slightly disappointing things. -------- Translating that into dating, this is why Michael talks about the importance of compliance loops. "Hey, hold my drink for a second" "Can you do me a favor and take 2 scoops out of that box to feed fido for me" These are very simple things that nobody really WANTS to do, but aren't a major inconvenience. The response to these requests will tell you a other about someones frame of the interaction. If you watch the Whatever podcast, Brian likes to ask girls if they would bow for their boyfriend when they come home. Feminists HATE this and will argue tooth and nail about the symbolism of bowing to men being insulting, yet expect men to open doors for them... The anti feminine woman is revolted when asked to serve or submit to or comply with requests from men in any capacity. Taking things further, if a girl is propositioning you for a relationship and you set boundaries as to what they would be able to expect from you and what you would allow for them to do is the same concept on a more intense level.