Let me tell you a tale of two men: The first man was raised in a small rural town and taught to be nice to women, be a gentlemen, and treat women special. He was taught to make women happy, to listen to what they have to say, and to make sure they are always made happy, because if your partner is happy then you will be happy. This man has had failed relationship after failed relationship after always "doing the right thing" and "being nice, loving, and kind." The second man was cheated on in a "committed relationship" and wanted to learn why it happened so that it could never happen again. He learned about female nature, read books on evolutionary psychology, on self improvement, on influence and persuasion, sales, marketing, and how to make himself the best version he can be. He learned to "not pay attention to people's words, but their actions," that "the answers to your problems is almost always abundance," and that he "doesn't need to qualify to anyone." While the first man is continually confused why he can't get ahead in life, and why women keep leaving him, the second man has learned that he is always only as good as his last "at bat." The second man learned that women will continually test him with "shit tests," and while they might not consciously be aware of it, will throw their emotional tantrums to test his resolve. He learned that you either maintain your frame, or you will enter hers, or anyone else's. He learned that having abundance will not allow him to feel scarcity and make choices from a position of lack or weakness. This isn't to say that the second man is cold or manipulative, it is that this second man has put in the work to make himself the prize and is aware of it. He is willing to listen to other's views, but ultimately makes the decision on how he wishes to see the world and lives it. He understands the value he brings to this world, and understands that his time is his most precious resources, and can choose who to give that time to. He knows that he wants and doesn't tolerate anything less.