The Bar Is So Low | Just Show Up, Be Kind & Value Yourself
There have been a few times on my community calls where people have shared their experiences elsewhere, and I was shocked. Why are these types of conversations coming up on my calls? Because we talk about building better communities, and naturally, that means discussing both what works and what does not. People need a space where they can share these experiences without judgment, so they can learn, grow, and do better. First, there was a community that expected someone to be exclusive to them when what they were offering was so low it was barely anything at all. They wanted loyalty without providing real value in return. (Btw: I do not even recommend signing up for something exclusive, because at that point, you have the same security as a nine to five but without the benefits.) Another person was promised a role, only to be strung along for months with no real answer. Their time was treated like it had no value, as if waiting indefinitely was just part of the deal. Then there was a community that came highly recommended until the moment someone decided it was not the right fit for them. Instead of a respectful parting, they were met with rude treatment, passive aggressive posts, and public call outs. When this was brought up on a call, over half my community had similar stories. That is not a coincidence. That is a pattern. Another story came up where people joined a well-known community, expecting a call with someone. Some were told after signing up that calls were no longer offered. Others were told to book, but the person never showed up. One finally got a rescheduled call, likely because they had paid for an annual membership, while another received no follow-up at all. They eventually left the community, feeling ignored and undervalued. Even in a widely praised, seven-figure community, this kind of thing was happening. If this is what is happening at the top, then understand this. You can do better. Just show up. Treat people kindly and like they matter. Value yourself.