Reading your other post and this one feels to me that she is thinking the more kids there are around the less of priority she is going to be, and her needs not addressed (but there seems element of selfishness on her side to tbh). She isnt wanting to talk to you about solutions to this (which is the man way of thinking, she comes with problem we want to solve it), she wants to feel heard and her emotions, feelings and needs acknowledged a lot of times that's all she needs too, you to be her rock that hears her, but also you need to be the leader and guide her. Practically all the kids in your house need to be treated the same (I'm not clear if all the kids in the house are yours or not) by both you and her, otherwise you are fostering problems in your relationship with them down the line. She will never feel the same about your kids as hers but that doesn't change how they are practically treated, and that goes for how your earlier kids treat her, respect both ways. In addition YOU need lead, to come up with the solutions around giving everyone in the household what they need, whether that's all family days out/activities, taxiing them to outside activities and making sure you have time as husband and wife not just Mam and Dad which can be hard in busy homes. I was in similar situation but from the otherside I had two stepkids as well as my daughter, clearly I have more feelings for my daughter but they all got the same all got attention from me and all got the same discipline etc, and yes I got the your not my Dad nonsense when they got to teenage years but that never washed with me lol.

What you need to do is take the learning's from the program and apply it to you and the type of people you want to be around. The stereotype here is being around models and the clubbing scene etc, if thats not for you then don't aim for it, just reframe to you and what you want. If you want to be high status in events that's comfortable for you then take everything from here and apply it there. So still have an amazing instagram, instead of lists of models/hot clubbing types, get a list of girls who goto the places and events you want to be at, if thats Board game events, comicon etc then go for it that way. Invite them same way as if it was Babes in Toyland, aim to show up with a group of them the same, the principals of attracting others will work. Giving people value might not be photoshoots it might be showing up to stuff with the newest latest games, it might be helping newbies learn the games, it might be organizing a regular games night, as you get to know people it might be access to meet celebs at comicons etc. Volunteer at some of the events even or help someone who is organizing with whatever your skills are. Being someone who can show up with a bunch of people will open doors for you in all walks of life. On top of that make sure you a looksmaxxing, so make sure your getting in shape have nice clothes etc etc. Standout in the crowd you are around, there are high value people in those scenes as well, suited to where I suspect you want to go and people you feel confident around. You will then gain confidence etc yourself and while the anxiety wont necessarily go away you will be able to use that confidence to develop strategies to help you when you are uncomfortable and you still around your people who get you anyway. I'm in a similar boat I'm 50 and dont really want to hang out in clubs and around 20 Year olds but am looking at how to apply the principals of the program to the life I do want.

You need to hide from any woman in your life on the 29th Feb, dunno if its just a UK tradition but that's the day ladies can ask men to marry them :)

@Maxime Cote disagree low status is not asking the "dumb" questions and remaining ignorant. high status is confidence in knowing otherwise and use resources at their disposal to increase knowledge and make correct decisions.

I'm goal setting in a different way - setting actions not results - eg some of the above clear debt ones thats a result - whats the next or daily action that gets you there. In the past I would have set a goal eg run 3 hour marathon in April, setting a more daily goal of 60-90 minute running a day, byte size chunks and constant sense of achievement, you cant control results I might get injured I might have a nightmare race and miss the 3 hours but if I have done all the steps to get there have achieved and will achive more in the future. Currently rereading Getting Things Done and re-refining my workflows into next steps.