Hey guys! I am interested to hear your thoughts on something. In Buddhism (at least the areas I am familiar with) it seems to be understood that when one is suffering - triggered by something or someone outside of themself, it is not that the thing or person is negative but rather one’s reaction to that stimuli. This had me thinking about boundaries (which by the way I am not great at). I was on the phone with someone and they said and I am paraphrasing “if you set a boundary and the person does not respect your boundary, you simply find someone who does”. This may sound trivial or immature but this is where I am at. Part of me wants to weather through storms and another part of me wants to leave the area where storms happen so much. It feels like too, there is a part of me that feels attached to the storm, so I try to tell the storm to calm down or just try to change the storm or convince it to be more gentle… if you catch my drift. I have also been pondering about the idea in Buddhism that reflects on suffering, the cause of suffering and the cessation of suffering. It didn’t necessarily say to leave the storm as far as I can tell but it does suggest accepting the storm and not wanting or desiring of it - as a result, suffering is reduced. That felt like a bunch of thought sprung together. I feel a bit scattered this morning but yesterday I meditated and went to my temple (I am an omnist of sorts though btw). After not sleeping for months, I slept away from my boyfriend and having meditated, I actually slept. I am continuing on to work on boundaries or understanding these things so I can stay on a balanced path. Much love

People often say to those who seem to have many requirements to accept someone as a partner that, thinking this way, they will never find anyone. But I wonder… what are we supposed to do? Accept compromises just to pair up and obtain a sense of security, even though deep down, from the very beginning, we feel we won’t be able to endure them for long? Have we stopped believing in love… possibly because we are no longer capable of loving someone that isn't our ego or its projected expression? Or the expectation of love in this paired form, while being almost taken for granted with all its complexities, is just a narrow viewpoint of our true feelings? If our feelings of wild romance collide with feelings of order and diligence: what ethical stance is right to have? Is there a right-choice? Are our partners our property? Are we entitled to deny them to love someone else in such a way that one feels due to boycott any contradictory feeling arising or loving is letting the other have freedom of choice regardless of the choice he makes? Is jealousy an indication of sound concern or just an uncontrolled demand for attention? Is love something you can crystallize forever with an oath or a whim of the moment? But most importantly: are we giving our partner what we demand from them? I don't have an answer, just a personal way of threading between the poles, and the certainty of pissing off somebodies and the certainty of moving some others towards me, inevitably, exchangeably, with each decision. Ohhh... by the Mo'Jaal's filthy bowels! I pray for the Balance! What is your take on this?