Can we stop with the weak victimhood mentality? So many people out here have anchored their identity in victimhood so hard that they forgot they ever had dreams to begin with. Who had it the hardest. Who's more hurt. Who's more "traumatized." Revisiting wounds. Repeating stories. Rehearsing pain over and over. Everyone's in a competition for who gets to wear the crown of pain. Who really cares? What are you doing now? Pain isn't status. It's the price of admission. You aren't supposed to "process" it and wallow in it forever. You aren't supposed to hide in the shadow of hardship to avoid the real work. Harness it. Aim it. Use it. Step up and create the ultimate version of yourself. Winners don't stay victims. They turn that which broke them into the weapon that builds them. There is zero nobility in wallowing in your sad story. The only nobility in your sad story is overcoming it and showing others they can do the same. ~ Andy Frisella

New employee starts working with me in our Torrance office today. I found that detailing a dress code can be tricky when it's (you don't need to dress as formally as I do, but there is a minimum of X, Y, and Z). Today's outfit is: Shirt: Paul Fredrick button-down white dress with purple accents Slacks: Hart Shaffer & Marx suit separate in black Tie: Unnamed silk tie from a small vendor in Venice, purple with deep lavender micro lines Belt: Hanks Belt in black Vest: Hugo Boss odd vest in black Shoes: Stacy Adams black cap-toe Oxfords Dress Socks: Southern Scholar deep violet with textured static pattern The beginning of a new expansion for the company today. Very excited!

Stuck with the same shirt and trousers as this afternoon's OOTD to build this outfit. I added a brown soft shoulder blazer, sailboat tie, blue/tan/brown PS, Cole Haan brogues, and a wool overcoat to complete the look.