What to make of this initial interaction... · Muslim Marriage Accelerator

What to make of this initial interaction...

As salaamua'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh respected sisters 🌻

Eid Mubarak; I hope your Eid and Dhul Hijjah so far have been full of appreciation and accepted good deeds inshaaAllah!

There is something I'm unsure about...

Someone who began communicating with my wali sent some information about himself and much was deen-focused basic initial information and some details about interests and what he is looking for (all communication we have had is through wali alhamdullilllah, mashaaAllah). They did not include anything about their professional/academic career/occupation and left that part blank of their messaged profile blank (stated "university" mashaaAllah). I assumed this was intentional and thought maybe they just don't want people to begin interacting with them based on that - I did not think I should disqualify him just from that.

We thanked each other for the initial information and agreed to proceed with initial questions.

One of the questions I asked was what his current and future career goals and occupation are. He gave a general answer of the field that he currently works in - which let me know that he is employed mashaaAllah (had no clue prior if he was working, planning to work, studying etc.). Didn't get anything related to future goals. After, that I asked what kind of work he does in that field and if it is related to his course of study.

He replied saying that he kept his field general because he is (his words) "a pretty private person and it usually comes up later. I was expecting something more personal about myself and not my work in the first set of questions lol."

Following that statement, he answered the question a bit more specific about his current line of work within that field politely but still vague saying its related to XYZ. Its not a line of work that is sketchy or give me any red flags in and of itself alhamdullillah (these interactions are all non-verbal written messages, I cannot know anything about the tone except what I interpret from the text - I understand this has limitations, but have not decided if will proceed to meet for verbal communication yet).

To be clear, I did not only ask about his profession, there were a few other questions as well to see if there is anything right off the bat that go against non-negotiables.

I am wondering if you can help me understand if it was unseemly of me to ask this.

I can tell you how I felt and why I asked, I just don't want to skew your opinion.

Dear sisters, what are your thoughts and advice? Would love to hear from you inshaaAllah

BarakAllahu Feekum :)

(ps. do not worry, I haven't and do not plan on asking about *every* interaction I have, this one just stumped me and it may happen more from time to time. I appreciate this platform and am glad to be able to connect with you here alhamdullillah, and thank you for your care)

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