Assalamu alaikum, My name is Faria💖, and I’m from Pakistan🇵🇰. As someone who is quite new here, I just wanted to share something I’ve found especially interesting.😊 One thing that stands out to me (particularly as a Pakistani) is how different cultural norms are around the world when it comes to marriage and finding a spouse. It’s fascinating to see these differences through everyone’s conversations.💗 What is truly enlightening is that no matter how different our cultures are or how far apart our countries may be, what keeps us together is our religion and our drive to become better and to want better for ourselves🪻, with the intention of pleasing Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala).💐

Let's get real, sis. We all have that one fear that keeps us up at night when we think about getting married. Maybe it's losing yourself, choosing wrong, dealing with in-laws, financial struggles, or something completely different. 👇 VOTE in the poll below, then drop a comment explaining WHY:

If you had to choose just ONE quality in a potential spouse - just one thing that matters more than everything else - what would it be? Not a list. Not "well, it depends." Just ONE. 👇 VOTE in the poll below: If you could only have ONE quality in your spouse, what would it be? Then tell us WHY in the comments:

This is something that I've been seeing a lot during my marriage search.. people slapping "deen over dunya" on their profiles as if that really tells you anything about their religiosity.. I spent a while trying to understand what it meant since it wasn't a concept I grew up with (i guess it's more common in the West), but I noticed that most treat deen as a separate entity entirely as if in a secular sense, it's one of the areas of their life that they work on (career, spirituality, family, etc.). But doesn't Islam teach us otherwise? Isn't deen supposed to be like the iOS/android operating system that runs everything we do rather than how I've seen people applying "Deen over Dunya" where they do more "deen-focused' activities (being in service, ritualistic ibadah, etc.) and have that define their religiosity instead of having deen be the thing that roots every action they take. While it's something I will always work on, I feel like when I remind myself of why I accept certain jobs or do certain actions while rooting my why in deen, the barakah comes flooding in, but when I'm disconnected from it, I notice the anxiety that comes with it. This is just something I've been thinking about lately as it's something I look for in marriage, someone rooted in deen, but I think it wasn't until I defined it for myself that I was able to reflect on how far I've come on my journey of being rooted in deen in EVERY area of life and not as a secular category. SubhanAllah when I reflect on that, I can CLEARLY see how Allah is the best of planners and how Al-Hadi is holding my hand and guiding me every step of the way in everything I do. It's not become so easy to spot people who use the ritualistic forms of ibadah as a sign of religiosity vs those who are truly grounded and guided by deen. @Mindful Muslimah's last video literally helped me put all of this together because it's something that I've been contemplating for a while but not fully grasping on why I find people who say deen over dunya problematic (i've gotten into arguments with friends about it but couldn't articulate why it made no sense to me). SubhanAllah, Al-Hadi truly reveals things when you're ready to receive them and understand them.

Assalam o Alaikum! I am from Pakistan.Happy to be here and thank you for this safe space for us girlies where we can communjcate without hesitation