As salaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh <3 Sisters! I'm trying to figure out how to word this; my question feels like an obvious one, yet here I am... what if things match up and boxes are checked but you are not attracted to someone?

As salaamua'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh respected sisters 🌻 Eid Mubarak; I hope your Eid and Dhul Hijjah so far have been full of appreciation and accepted good deeds inshaaAllah! There is something I'm unsure about... Someone who began communicating with my wali sent some information about himself and much was deen-focused basic initial information and some details about interests and what he is looking for (all communication we have had is through wali alhamdullilllah, mashaaAllah). They did not include anything about their professional/academic career/occupation and left that part blank of their messaged profile blank (stated "university" mashaaAllah). I assumed this was intentional and thought maybe they just don't want people to begin interacting with them based on that - I did not think I should disqualify him just from that. We thanked each other for the initial information and agreed to proceed with initial questions. One of the questions I asked was what his current and future career goals and occupation are. He gave a general answer of the field that he currently works in - which let me know that he is employed mashaaAllah (had no clue prior if he was working, planning to work, studying etc.). Didn't get anything related to future goals. After, that I asked what kind of work he does in that field and if it is related to his course of study. He replied saying that he kept his field general because he is (his words) "a pretty private person and it usually comes up later. I was expecting something more personal about myself and not my work in the first set of questions lol." Following that statement, he answered the question a bit more specific about his current line of work within that field politely but still vague saying its related to XYZ. Its not a line of work that is sketchy or give me any red flags in and of itself alhamdullillah (these interactions are all non-verbal written messages, I cannot know anything about the tone except what I interpret from the text - I understand this has limitations, but have not decided if will proceed to meet for verbal communication yet).

Assalamu aleikum 💗 To all the sisters here - I just want to remind you how truly beautiful this community is. What makes this space so special is that we don’t judge one another. We understand that every sister is on her own journey - growing, healing, learning, struggling, and trying to become closer to Allah in her own way. There are so many sisters out there who don’t even know that a community like this exists. There are 805 members here, and it is not by coincidence that you are among them. Allah chose for you to be here for a reason. Maybe Allah wants you to hear one reminder or one live session that completely changes your perspective. Maybe He wants you to gain knowledge and understanding before entering marriage, while many others step into it without knowing so much. Or maybe He placed you here because another sister needs you - your support, your kindness or your advice at a moment where she feels stuck, alone, or unheard. Allah’s plans are always greater than what we can see ourselves. So never underestimate the blessing of being surrounded by sisters who sincerely want good for one another and love each other fi sabilillah (for the sake of Allah). May Allah reward every single sister in this community for every reminder shared, every kind word, every sincere intention, and every moment of support given to another sister. May He place barakah in this sisterhood, increase us in sincerity and love, and gather us together in Jannatul Firdaus. Ameen. 🌷

As salaamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I hope you are all enjoying the beauty of the season, InshaaAllah! Firstly, so glad to be here and hear from you sisters; may Allah bless everyone! I saw in one of the posts someone mentioned Pure Matrimony as a tool for searching. Does anyone know if this requires payments? Any suggestions for suitable tools that go beyond the superficial and help find people who actively learn the deen are definitely encouraged BarakAllahu feekum!! <3