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Marriage Discussion

Greetings, gentlemen,

I hope you're all well today. I'm here to discuss a matter close to my heart, a conversation I had with my wife that I believe warrants your insight. I usually keep such matters private, but I've come to value the wisdom and perspective of this group, which is why I'm sharing it here.

To provide some context, my wife and I have been undergoing counseling, and we've received varying opinions from different psychologists, including the esteemed Dr. Jordan Peterson. Despite our differences, we have a strong foundation, especially when it comes to our responsibilities and commitments, particularly as parents.

The essence of our recent conversation revolved around the advice from these psychologists and how we can apply it to our relationship. We acknowledge our compatibility, which makes these changes challenging. However, I took the initiative to suggest that we should work on achieving certain goals together to foster continued growth in our relationship.

Her initial response took me aback. She mentioned that it was my fault, asserting that all I do is focus on the children and spend time with them. I responded by reminding her that we were discussing these issues precisely to find solutions. I asked her what we could do differently to ensure that we continue to evolve as a team.

Her reply, somewhat frustratingly, was that I needed to stop placing her last and make having a wife a priority rather than an option. She then walked out of the room. I must admit, I was quite upset at this point, but I decided to take some time to reflect, which led me to seek your valuable perspectives.

My confusion stems from why she wouldn't engage in a discussion about potential solutions that could benefit us both, rather than placing blame solely on me. I acknowledge my part in our challenges, but I'm puzzled as to why we couldn't focus on finding clear, mutual solutions.

I eagerly await your thoughts and insights on this matter. Your input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for listening.

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