After really thinking me and jodi would get back together things have definitely took a downward turn! Its started by Wednesday night work going mad at me telling me I need to get the job done quicker They were bang out of order to me I always try my best! The next day I was at jodis and was supposed to stay there until I left for work I said something which upset her and she told me to leave! I went but forget my phone and wallet so as I went back in she was walking up the stairs in her underwear Sorry she said I didnt know you would be coming back in and because I was angry I said its ok you always do it anyway Meaning the times she has been in the kitchen and told me to advert my eyes! I have quit porn and webcams so even her saying that has a effect on me so I had do my best to explan this before but as I snapped she said from now on you are here for jack and him only i don't want and relationship with you at all! I walked out the door phoned in sick for my shift and went on a walk with the intention of ending my life! She messaged asking if I was safe and when I didn't confirme I was or not she called the police and they was looking for me! The end result i can't now pick up or take my son to school or even see him for the time being until safe guarding checks have taken place But I did go to his show at school yesterday of him playing drums I gave him a cuddle at the end and told him how proud I was and then as I left the school I walked out crying and there was my wife standing right by the door I didn't make eye contact with her but I see her face drop seeing me so upset I carried on walking really hopeing she might try to comfort me or send someone else to but I know she did message my sister and best friend to say I was in a bad way! Just had my 1st bit of food since Wednesday and took a mental health medication for the 1st time ever in my life Feel so alone and so lost but I have now fully accepted there is no future for me and jodi

Hi, I’m really grateful I have somewhere to express my feelings with other people in the same situation. I’ve just found out this morning my wife is still in contact with another man she said was just friends, late night calls and god know what else, I want to approach her about it but really don’t want to push her further away, it’s really tricky as I feel like a mug.

So on Fri 19 June my partner calls time on our relationship, and today just a few.weeks later I have estate agent coming to take photos of house as she pushes for it to go on sale ASAP so she can move on. I feel powerless to stop this process and if I had said nonshe would likely have left for her parents. This is all so quick....

Hello Men, I am Marcus. Been a stay at home dad for over 4 years till start of this year. Been wonderful not having my 2 girls have to do any daycare. That has become my life. Beautiful, yet isolated. Moved away from family and friends when we had our fist kiddo. This was during covid. During covid I deconstructed Christianity, being an entrepreneur in the USA, and many other fundamental ideals... this put me in such uncharted area... wife was supportive, and even valued me being home so kids had the life we provided. July last year she woke me up crying saying she couldn't do it alone anymore and needed a partner... (that confused me... I thought we built a strong love and many ways we were good partners) so I stepped in thing she had complained or snapped about when she was overstemulated. Well come February she got a limerance on a guy and decided to separate while she decided if she wanted to divorce or not. As of right now she has been best friends with this guy and they finally went on a date this week. Also since February while starting a new carrier working full time, I've been the one home with girls every night, she is rarely here. So I've been carrying the home alone since February. Partially cause I see her burn out and been protecting that... When she told me about the date. I did let her know I'm still standing, that doesn't change it for me. She has autonomy, so I'm respecting that. We even talked about our spiritual journey. Both are alittle lost there, and both of us are seeking. She is leaning towards divorce heavy still and talks about how we can be this beautiful blended family. My heart, and my spiritual leading has been leaning heavy into reconsideration... I am willing to let go... but haven't gotten enough spiritual confirmation... just seems the confirmation I've gotten is God will bring her back... Since February on top of navigation of a new job, being best dad I can for girls (both special needs and youngest medically fragile requiring 24 hour monitoring and ability to give rescue meds for drug resistant seizures) and personal growth and the household. It's been rough... hit burn out often.

So just watched lesson 3 and instinctively agree that talking about the problems just makes your partner feel pressured. As of Monday this week I regained enough emotional control to shut up. That was after the first two weeks of behaving like every other man in this situation- panicked, confused, upset, needy etc. My partner has calmed down around me and we watched TV together again last night although she capped it off by asking if I could buy some plastic crates today sonshe can declutter ahead of house photos being doe Mon by estate agent. I am remaining calm and once again I now recall during last Aprils "conversation" my partner said "You are better at arguing than me!". I now understand i woukd reaction defensively and use logic to justify my position, rather than trying to understand how that had made her FEEL. Post April I thought I had done well in not "outarguing" her but had fundamentally missed the point of what she was saying. I am still worried at the pace at which this separation is progressing and that will get worse if we get good offers in quickly for the house after it goes upnfor sale next week. Timing of listing just before schools break for summer and general property market against us but we shall see. Great video Mark , all made sense to me. Heading home now to have dinner.with partner and kids, then TV. No raising problems from me tonight that is for sure