I’ve had the most bizarre two days, first my wife doesn’t want to know me,I found out this morning that my wife has stopped messaging this guy she’s had on the side, I think he’s given her the cold shoulder, she was keeping her phone on her everywhere she went, now she leaves it so I can see it, she has also removed the lock from WhatsApp. She is now kind off talking to me showing interest, wanting to go on days out with the children, asking me if I’m ok, im so confused is this just her in a rebound as he has called it off, I don’t want to confront her yet as she is being nice. I’m a bit hurt that one of her friends was encouraging her to be with this other man, quite cruel as I’ve been suffering with mental health. We vowed In sickness and in health, don’t see much of this in her mind.

So - watched video 1 and pleased to say as of Mon this week have been avoiding the attraction killers. Video 2 - i now understand that my partner lost faith that things were going to change, at least to the degree she needed, to show her a different future awaited rather than more of the same.......she unloaded on me when drunk last April, I think I made progress on some points but maybe not others and she noticed patterns of repeated behaviours she didnt like. My partner stated whilst out on a date night in Feb/March after a few drinks (again drunk mouths betray sober hearts) that she didnt feel we were connected (exact phrase Mark's video uses) and I still deluded myself that we were ok but subconsciously felt increasingly uneasy. Now I get it.

Hi all, For those that couldn't make the call tonight, I did a very brief overview of the weekly training videos that are available in the classroom. If particularly if you're new here and you haven't dived into those yet, this would be a great place to start. It ties them together and talks a bit about how each links to the next and why each of the videos cover some really important themes that I see men needing to navigate as they work to rebuild their marriage from the point of separation. I will upload to the classroom later but for now here's the recording.

Hi, I’m new to the group, what I’ve read so far about this process I have been doing everything wrong, so I kean to learn. My store goes, I’ve been with my wife for 11years we have three young girls, I’ve been suffering with mental health all my life, it stems from childhood trauma, I have but up a massive wall to protect myself from being hurt, obviously this is what has ruined my relationship with my wife. We had a big move to Wales and things really spiralled out of control for me. My wife now says she is done but she also says she is very confused, I know she is hurting bad and that kills me inside. We still live in the same house different rooms, she openly gets undressed in front of me when getting ready etc, that’s hard to see but still nice. I love her very much and I’m willing to put the hard work in, I just want are life back.

Hi - my general anxiety levels pretty high - wake up at 3 to 4am not just due to personal situation but work also a significant factor with things continuing to go south and another round of redundancies. Trying to find ways to fight the anxiety and read EMDR bilateral stimulation is good. Has anyone tried this, what did they use amd was it any help?