I’ve had the most bizarre two days, first my wife doesn’t want to know me,I found out this morning that my wife has stopped messaging this guy she’s had on the side, I think he’s given her the cold shoulder, she was keeping her phone on her everywhere she went, now she leaves it so I can see it, she has also removed the lock from WhatsApp. She is now kind off talking to me showing interest, wanting to go on days out with the children, asking me if I’m ok, im so confused is this just her in a rebound as he has called it off, I don’t want to confront her yet as she is being nice. I’m a bit hurt that one of her friends was encouraging her to be with this other man, quite cruel as I’ve been suffering with mental health. We vowed In sickness and in health, don’t see much of this in her mind.

Hi, I’m new to the group, what I’ve read so far about this process I have been doing everything wrong, so I kean to learn. My store goes, I’ve been with my wife for 11years we have three young girls, I’ve been suffering with mental health all my life, it stems from childhood trauma, I have but up a massive wall to protect myself from being hurt, obviously this is what has ruined my relationship with my wife. We had a big move to Wales and things really spiralled out of control for me. My wife now says she is done but she also says she is very confused, I know she is hurting bad and that kills me inside. We still live in the same house different rooms, she openly gets undressed in front of me when getting ready etc, that’s hard to see but still nice. I love her very much and I’m willing to put the hard work in, I just want are life back.

I’ve had a very strange day, it started with me seeing my wife is still messaging another man that man and phone calls, which was really hard to deal with. Then after dropping kids off at school, we head of for a planned sea swim close to us, it was so peaceful and relaxing, she looked happy, we started are swim and she came over to me and gave me a cuddle for ages, then we had a passionate kiss and talked about sex! I’m so confused by this. In her message to him that were two days ago she said ok I get the hint, would have been nice to of talked about it rather than be ignored. I want to talk to her about this but I know she will get cross and defensive. I don’t want to ruin what happened this morning if it even meant anything.

Hi, I’m really grateful I have somewhere to express my feelings with other people in the same situation. I’ve just found out this morning my wife is still in contact with another man she said was just friends, late night calls and god know what else, I want to approach her about it but really don’t want to push her further away, it’s really tricky as I feel like a mug.