🚫 Stop Sending DMs That Reek of Desperation
(Steal This Cold Message That Actually Got a Reply)
95% of DMs being sent right now?
💩 They read like a Fiverr VA copy-pasted it from a 2021 YouTube tutorial.
You know the ones…
❌ "Hey [First Name], I help busy founders scale to 6-figures using my proven 3-step system…"
❌ "Quick question for you... 👀"
❌ "I saw your profile and thought we might be a great fit!"
If you've ever sent one of those, this is your intervention.
Because you're not just being ignored—you're being categorized.
🧠 As forgettable.
🗑️ As background noise.
📉 As someone not worth replying to.
🧠 How I Flipped It, just like teaches. Instead of ignoring a guy who'd been DM'ing me like an amnesiac AI…
And this guy is a fairly well established influencer with a sizable IG, YT & Skool Community.
I sent this:
Not gonna lie --> you've hit me with more "Hey Ian"s & "How's Biz?" than an MLM recruiter w/ amnesia 😂
Figured I'd wait to reply until I had something worth showing.
In the last 12 months: 222 new customers. $572K in revenue.
{SCREENSHOT PROOF}
All from a similar offer and audience size to yours.
Not saying you're leaving money on the table...
But if you are, your weak ass DM game is probably why.
✌️☮️
Guess what happens next?
👀 He replied instantly. Then booked a call.
🧨 Why It Worked
✅ Pattern interrupt – Casual. Funny. Not trying to sell.
✅ Leads with proof – No bait. Just data.
✅ Curiosity over pitch – Hints at the gap without bragging.
✅ Reverses the dynamic – He chased me.
💥 Want to Write DMs Like This?
Here's the formula:
Open with a jab – playful, honest, bold
Drop results – numbers > adjectives
Create curiosity – no neediness, just a window
Position yourself as the shortcut – without pitching
Shut up and let them ask
👉 𝘾𝙤𝙢𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 "𝘿𝙈𝙎𝙇𝘼𝙋" 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄'𝙡𝙡 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙅𝙖𝙮 𝘿𝙈 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙩𝙤𝙤𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙬𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝘿𝙈'𝙨
It using the exact method above.
Stop Getting Ignored.
No more spam.
No more guessing.
No more sounding like someone's virtual assistant.
🧠 You're either pattern-interrupting…
Or being forgotten.
— Ian