I went on a solo trip to Medellin, Colombia for 10 days. Here's my report. Open to your feedback! ✅ Wins - Arrived knowing almost no one and left having met 100+ people, forming multiple overlapping social circles - Built strong social momentum by the end of the trip — comfortably opening dozens of people in a single night - Invited to perform at a rooftop jam session for ~200 people (major social proof moment) - Integrated into several communities: musicians, salsa dancers, language exchange groups, coffee tour groups - Built a strong alliance with one key male friend and helped generate high-energy group dynamics consistently - Noticeable improvement in vocal projection, posture, eye contact, and overall presence throughout the trip - Stayed highly present by minimizing social media and prioritizing real-world interactions - Successfully isolated a woman and led a venue change home (strong logistical leadership, even without a close) - Consistently created comfort and connection in new groups — natural social glue ⚠️ Challenges Hesitation to Approach: Saw opportunities but held back at times due to assumption of low interest. Underestimating Attractiveness: Missed or rationalized away signs of interest (eye contact, proximity, engagement). Fear of Making Women Uncomfortable: Defaulted to safe/friendly energy rather than allowing interactions to become man-to-woman. Overreliance on Conversation: Tried to build connection verbally instead of leading physically or logistically. Late Escalation: Attraction peaked earlier than action was taken in multiple interactions. Early-Trip Confidence Dips: Lower vocal strength and internal certainty affected presence at the beginning of the trip. 📚 Lessons - Attraction often exists earlier than you think - Waiting for certainty = loss of momentum - Physical leading communicates intent more clearly than verbal explanation - Emotional momentum matters more than long conversations - Confidence shows up as decisiveness, not just loudness - Social proof (performer + connector role) significantly amplifies attraction - You thrive in socially warm, activity-based environments -

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I recently have been at some events were girls with MOA members were talking quite openly about MOA and it's benefits. Obviously a few drinks were on board and they were being quite chatty about the whole thing. But I have to say, I was quite surprised at the in-depth knowledge about the program that they seemed to have. And it made me think, because I don't really talk about it with girls I hang out with at all. So, it brought to my mind a question. Is it a good idea to tell your girlfriend about MOA? She might think it's a good idea at the time, but what is her attitude going to be about MOA if you guys break up later?. What do you guys think?

One thing I’ve been thinking about lately is the gap between knowing and doing. Most of us here have consumed a lot of good material over the years: books, podcasts, frameworks, theories. But not all of it translates cleanly into real life. Or at least your life. So I’m curious: What’s one thing you actually changed offline that made the biggest difference for you? Not something you learned; something you did. Could be social, fitness, business, dating, mindset, boundaries, or environment. Interested to hear what moved the needle for you in practice.

Discuss below why did you join Men of Action?