Codependency is a topic that comes up a lot and I was so surprised that I hadn't made a post about it yet. Codependency is a relationship pattern where one person becomes overly responsible for another person's emotions, needs, or decisions. It can feel like deep caring, loyalty, or devotion, but below the surface it often creates imbalance and emotional strain. Often it's a relationship dynamic where one person becomes the "giver" sacrificing their own needs/wellbeing for the sake of the other "the taker". 🚩Common Signs of Codependency -Feeling responsible for other people's feelings -Difficulty saying no even when you want to; doing things you don't want to to make the other person happy -Anxiety when someone is upset with you -Seeking validation through being helpful or indispensable; excessive need to get approval -Prioritizing others consistently at the expense of yourself; ignoring/minimizing your own feelings; tendency to neglect your own desires and needs -Feeling guilty when taking time for your needs -Staying in relationships that leave you depleted -A tendency to apologize or take the blame to keep the peace and avoid conflict -Changing your mood to reflect how others feel or behave -Excessive concern about that person’s habits or behaviors -Experiencing guilt or anxiety when doing something for yourself -A sense of self-worth and self-esteem that depends on what others think of you -Taking on more work than you can handle to lighten someone else’s load These patterns often begin subtly. Many people do not recognize codependency until they feel resentment, chronic stress, or a loss of personal identity. 🗺Where Codependency Comes From Codependency is frequently rooted in early experiences where emotional stability depended on your behavior. Common origins include: • Growing up with a parent whose moods you had to manage • Environments where your needs were minimized or ignored • Learning that belonging required self sacrifice • Being praised for caretaking more than authenticity

I used to believe being efficient meant juggling everything at once — business calls, laundry, messages, meals. But all that juggling left me exhausted and distracted. Now I know that multitasking isn’t mastery — it’s avoidance in disguise. When you slow down and give one thing your full attention, you not only do it better… you feel better doing it. It’s not about doing less. It’s about being present for what’s in front of you. What’s one thing you can do more intentionally today — even if it takes longer? Busy isn’t a badge — it’s a blindfold. 👉 What helps you come back to focus when life feels scattered?

Yesterday's conversation in this group: 30 Day Challenge ran by @Steve Webb prompted this topic for me.(Check it out if you haven't done so already--it's honestly one of my favorites: the challenges are meaningful and the vibes are solid!) ---- Every healthy relationship needs a sense of safety, respect, and good boundaries. When boundaries are unclear or when we don't have a strong sense of the things within us that still need tending to , outside influences can slip in and create distance, conflict, or resentment. Cloud and Townsend (in their books "boundaries" and "boundaries in marriage" ) call these outside influences “intruders.” Intruders are not always people with bad intentions. They can be anyone or anything that disrupts connection or takes priority over the relationship. They can also be internal states that influence choices (e.g. the need to be needed; the need to be desired; the need to be successful/fear of failure; fear of not being good enough). These needs or beliefs can influence behaviors in a way that it could be very easy to allow intruders in without even noticiing... *Side note, while this post can be applied to romantic relationships, it can also be applied to other relationships as well! Consider the relationships that you say are important to you. :) 💥 Common “Intruders” -Family members who disregard the couple’s space or privacy -Friends who pull one partner into emotional loyalty conflicts -Work or technology that consumes all available time and energy -Past relationships or unresolved trauma that continue to shape reactions -Addictions or unhealthy coping patterns that block emotional availability Intruders show up in subtle ways too, like overcommitment, people-pleasing, or neglecting time for one another. They can also be related to underlying needs or beliefs about oneself (e.g. the need to be needed or admired; not feeling good enough; fear of failure)--these can contribute to actions that one takes--extending extra time to others/activities, looking for admiration, overworking, etc)

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