THIS QUESTION CHANGED HOW I THINK ABOUT COMMUNITY (AND NOW I CAN’T UNSEE IT)
MY BRAIN DID THAT THING IT DOES (YOU KNOW THE ONE) I was scrolling, yup just scrolling like a normal human, when I saw this post asking “How do you grow your community?” and immediately the comments filled up with the usual stuff, traffic, platforms, YouTube, TikTok, Frank (OBVS, because Frank will always Frank IYKYK), funnels, links, where people are coming from, how to get more eyeballs through the door… and honestly, I get it, that angle makes TOTES sense (before anyone gets their panties in a twist, I’m not even coming for it). BUT my brain didn’t go there first. It did that sideways tilt thing it does (the one where you pause mid-scroll and stare at thin air for a second like you’ve left your body), because whenever I think about growing a community, I don’t always start with how people arrive. (I still do have my traffic moment btw, let’s be real and open here)… but now I try to start with what happens AFTER they’re already inside. And then this question just sort of plopped itself into my head and refused to leave (like that crazy mosquito that buzzes around when I’m trying to visit the land of nod, and yes I can hear it right now just thinking about it) 🦟 Q — HOW DO YOU GROW THE PEOPLE INSIDE THE COMMUNITY? Not the numbers. Not the headcount. The HUMAN HUMANS. And that shift alone feels kinda massive AF to me, like one of those HELLO / DUH / OBVS moments where once you see it, you can’t unsee it (and now I’m not sorry because you won’t either). HERE COME THE PINGS dat PINGED!!! 💡 LIGHTBULB MOMENT #1 (THIS ONE MADE ME STOP AND STARE INTO THIN AIR FOR A BIT) A community doesn’t grow just because more people arrive. It grows when the people already inside start to MOVE. Not a race, not a performance, not suddenly becoming confident internet extroverts overnight (HMMM), just MOVE, from lurking to commenting, from commenting to sharing, from sharing to leading, from leading to actually feeling like they belong here and aren’t about to be judged for saying the wrong thing… (OOOF I love that bit because it’s so real).