Games Women Play - Instagram Edition
Gents, I got a goooood nugget of information from one of my female friends the other day. We were talking about dating and she mentioned how when she starts to suss out if a man is worth dating is she 1) goes to his instagram (and other online sources like facebook, LinkedIn, etc) and see's how he presents himself (sense of style, level of fitness, is it full of photos of you holding fish and slamming back beers, etc) and... This is a new one... 2) She goes into their "follows" list and sees the types of accounts they follow. She mentioned that if a guy is following a lot of "influencers" aka "thirst traps" that they do not have any relationship to that she can see (based on the context of how you display yourself online), then she will assume (and mentions she is usually correct in this assumption) that the guy is only interested in a quick fuck and nothing more. Women are smart. Women look at the small things. Is your instagram fixed displaying access to scarce resources/high-status signals? Do you follow nothing but thirst-traps or do you follow your "Dream 100" of the people you want to network with and be like (your inspirations)? Now, once you establish yourself, and begin to follow models or other 'influencers' that you have developed a relationship with, then it's a different context, but women will pick up on this based on the IVE (irrefutable visual evidence) you display in your profile (is it congruent with how the man presents himself?). Maybe it's time to clean up your "follows" list and re-evaluate how you use Instagram. 😉 You got this! 💪