What I mean here is deep unconscious fear of standing out, of being seen and even acknowledged...Not the loud version of fear... The silent one that percolates under the hood.... 🤔The one that shows up in rooms where you know your thinking is stronger than what’s being said — and you adjust anyway... Dumb it down... or even keep it to yourself.... You see the clear move that would change everything... and you know your idea is the solution... You feel it clearly... A nd then you soften it... or never share it.... ....You wrap it. .....You dilute it. or present it as a suggestion instead of a real shift... To reduce discomfort, you tell yourself you’re being strategic. Or diplomatic...Kind even.... Or “aware of the room.” 🙄Sometimes that’s true... But mostly, these are all lies you are telling yourself to reduce dissonance... Now, just reflect on when it happens. It rarely happens when you’re unsure... Almost never.... It happens when you are absolutely certain....The question is WHY? 💫Personal Power is not frightening because it might fail. Power is frightening because it reorganizes structure, reorganizes perceptions, put you in a spotlight.... ...It changes position. ...It changes who feels ahead. ....It changes who feels equal. ....It changes who feels exposed. It forces you to become accountable for your true greatness..... 💥Structural Psychology truth is - Human systems protect coherence above all else. Coherence means: I know who I am. I know where I stand. I know how others experience me. The field feels stable. The moment your capacity exceeds the structure that defined you, that stability wobbles. 💫Most people shrink capacity rather than expand structure. I t feels like humility. It is often loyalty.... Loyalty to an older identity. Loyalty to a group that once validated you. Loyalty to a version of yourself that didn’t disrupt hierarchy. 💥💥The psyche would rather preserve a coherent prison than risk incoherent freedom.💥💥 That’s not your weakness.

Quick loom vid on this! You do know that your self improvement / healing journey does not have to be a chore? Some people think it should be a chore something they have to do instead of getting to, that could not be further than the case. In this simple short full guide I will tell you exactly the process of making it fun. Part 1: Mindset Of you want to have fun on your healing / improvement journey, you need a good positive mindset on your side. Practically what this means is do not have a 0 to 1 mindset, some people think of they miss one habit or mess up once in the day in anyway they have failed, that is not good instead have a 0 to 100 mindset, and understand perfectionism is not possible and do not have this awful all or nothing mindset. This also means changing your self talk to an extent instead of saying “I have to heal trauma, I have to go gym.” Instead be like. “I get to go to to the gym, I get to heal.” That is much healthier and something we all should do. And the last part of the simple mindset training is to accept bad moments and bad things happening the best way to go about this is to just expect that life will not be perfect and not be a toxic positivist, of course positivity is good for the most part but sometimes just accept that some moments are bad and hard and do not try to sugar coat it. Part 2: Customisation Of you are not having fun on your healing or self improvement journey then you have a problem. You have not customised it the right way. Do experimentation try many business models, workout styles, mindsets, healing methods, then sooner or later you will find the one that you love and that is the how you should do it! Do what feels effortless and fun. And even for ways to heal, of you prefer healing trauma out in nature do it that way, of you prefer it in the comfort of your home do it that way, remember of it is not fun something is wrong. Hope this was valuable.