hey guys i’m new here but i’m so excited to see where this takes me. my name is ralph and im from the netherlands!! my mind is always wandering, so right now im really focusing on fully surrendering en trusting the grand play. with some things i still can’t help but to have questions, mostly about my love life and carreer as an artist. hopefully i’ll be able to find some answers here.

Lately I’ve been forced into a pause I didn’t choose. After years of giving everything I had to my job, often at the expense of my own body, I’m recovering from a concussion and facing the reality that healing can’t be measured by productivity. What’s coming up for me is how tightly I’ve tied my identity to what I produce, how reliable I am, how much I can endure. Rest feels uncomfortable. Not because I don’t need it, but because somewhere along the way I learned that my value comes from output. I’m trying to learn how to be a person, not a performance. For those who have gone through injury, burnout, or a major life shift: How did you begin separating who you are from what you do? What helped you untangle worth from productivity, especially in a culture that rewards pushing through at all costs? I’m genuinely curious and open to learning.