Now it's time to understand and label exactly why your identity keeps reverting: Drop your version in the comments below using this template📥 "The version of me I have been protecting people from is [describe it without shame]. I am starting to let it exist."

The shrinker , I’m just socially inept in social situations , if I say something wrong I will look stupid and it’s better to be quiet Appeaser , I’m just a people pleaser if I say what I actually think people will dislike me and that feeling is uncomfortable Performer , I’m just a comedian , I’ve convinced myself i am funny guy to numb the pain but now I have to keep playing catch up with that to the pint where I have to humiliate myself Deflector , I’m just emotionally avoidant, if I show emotion first I’m weak

I try to regulate myself between each cold call I tell myself I’m trying to help them and rejection is redirection I get some motivation I go in the cold call and the moment someone says we’re fine , we’ve got this , we’re not switching right now my brain panics The trigger is the guarded prospect and the words that trigger me are we are fine for now or it works or it’s working well I panic and freeze The moment I identified was in my childhood were an experience where I would share news get rejected so every time I ask difficult questions or challenge people I anticipate negative reactions which makes me stutter , scramble and freeze

I forgot to mention in the video: this has cost me, as Dino mentioned in the 4 patterns video, authentic relationships with NEW people because they can sense the performative behaviour. I have no problem being myself with familiar faces and feel very comfortable but when it comes to meeting new people, I feel I hide away my personality in hopes of looking mature and well put-together. The funny thing is, it varies widely for me. Sometimes I feel very confident and make an amazing first impression, other times I feel I am acting weird and not being my true self. Let me know your thoughts and any constructive feedback you have for me. That is my pattern ✅

Now that you’ve completed Module 2, you understand the cause behind your pattern and how it came into existence. Drop this in the comments below 👇 "The belief underneath my pattern is [name it]. I learned it because [where/when]."