Hey guys! 🤍 I was journaling this morning and I had this realisation I wanna share with you, I can actually say that I'm no longer an overthinker. And that's a big deal for me… if I could show this version of me to my 5-years-younger self, she’d be extremely proud, because I’m not trapped in my own head anymore. Because back then? Imagine overthinking like: - spending 15 minutes writing a 2-line message to my boss (😭) - replaying conversations on loop: “did they like me… did I sound weird… why did I say that” - trying to choose one direction, opening 17 tabs, and ending up more stuck - turning small decisions (post / boundary / text) into this whole dramatic “thing” What's interesting is that “being more confident.” or "just doing the thing" never really helped me. I first had to lower the resistance I had towards that action.... and I found this wonderful technique: ✨automatic writing, aka. 🧠 brain dump because overthinking is often our brain trying to logic its way out of a feeling.Brain dump works because it gets the real sentence out — and the loop finally quiets. If that caught your attention, I really encourage you to try this today!! It does wonders! This is how: set up your timer for five minutes, 📝 Write without stopping (no deleting, no rereading)...Start with: “What I’m not admitting is…”When time’s up: underline one line that stings. That’s usually the truth. P.S.: I’m curious! where do you see your overthinking right now? 🤍 A) decisions take forever B) replaying convos / “do they like me?” C) perfectionism / “not ready yet” D) fear of the wrong choice E) other

Have you ever notice that you remember something and then later you forgot about it? Well this is normal and it's called cause and effect, when you didn't recap something for 2 or 3 months you will naturally forget it Try to remember right now... What did you remember you ate last Sunday? What did you remember when you read that book yesterday? What did you remember you're friends spoke about at a restaurant last month? Every information that gets to your brain has what its called a 'half life' if you don't remember it until it becomes you're identity then you are on a sinking ship and you will not see change in you're life Memory = ⬆️⬇️ ( What you remember ) Effect = ⬇️⬆️ ( Hitting your goals, milestones ) Time = Just constantly moves Remember to remember So it's important whatever you learn in here and outside always come back to it from time to time this will help you top up you're memory bank even if it means 50 times, 70 times or 100 times "Information can only change your life for as long as you remember it"

I used to replay conversations in my head before they even happened. I was trying to “pre-write” the perfect version of me, to slay the "performance" that conversations were for me at that time - nothing but performance... And then when it was time to speak? ofc my mind went blank:D. and now when I look back, what helped me in the beginning wasn’t a big confidence hack. It was this: 👉 I started giving myself permission to say one honest sentence first. Examples I actually used: - “Give me a second, I’m thinking” - “That's a great point/question, let me think about it” - “Let me say it simply” It's so cool to do this because all of sudden you feel like some pressure just went away, as if you gave yourself a permission to slow down and not perform anymore. Because finally I wasn’t trying to sound perfect anymore, but rather tried to be authentic. I'm curious! When you don’t speak up, do you just feel awkward… or do you end up regretting it for hours/days and thinking “why do I always do this?”

Most people start their year aimlessly. They set big goals and get excited, but by the time it hits the second week of January, you’re back to where you started 🔁 I’ve found ways to work around this over the last two years that I want to share with you all. If you don’t have a strategy, you will waste another year ⚠️ I’ve made a document for you all to use (I usually share this with my private community) But I believe everyone here could benefit and actually make something out of themselves this year 📄 If you do nothing else today, write your 90-day focus on one page ✍️

I’ve noticed something in a lot of people, especially in interviews or uncomfortable conversations. They don’t really listen. They’re already forming their next sentence before the other person even finishes. It’s not arrogance. It’s insecurity. They’re scared of being caught off guard, of saying the wrong thing, or of being judged. You’ll see it in interviews all the time. Someone asks a question, and instead of pausing to think, the person jumps straight into a response. Not because they want to connect, but because silence feels unsafe. But that’s the problem. If you’re already preparing what to say next, you’re not truly listening. You’re reacting, not connecting. 🟥 Question 1: When someone challenges you, do you genuinely listen first, or do you start preparing your answer before they’re done speaking? 🟥 Question 2: Why do you think so many people struggle to just sit in silence and actually hear what’s being said? Write your thoughts below ⬇️