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Self Realization

As many of you know, I am genuinely interested in feedback on my outfits as I am still a novice on my sartorial journey. As a scientist, I value well-intended and specific feedback, even when it might bruise my ego. I take my ego out of the equation and just focus on the benefit of learning. For any who have authored academic papers in peer-reviewed journals, you know what I mean.

Yesterday, while my business partner and I were waiting in line at the bank, someone came up to me (much closer than one would normally do when not knowing a person) and began with "ever since you came into this bank, I have felt uncomfortable!" My first thought was that this guy was mentally unstable (recall that my PhD is in clinical psychology, so we're always thinking this is a possibility!). He continues, "I should have brought my jacket in the from the car at least." "You look great, man, and most of us aren't keeping up!"

I don't dress to be better than my fellow man, but to be better than my former self. I honestly believe that is my goal. But, the self-realization part here is that it does feel good to hear such feedback. There's nothing brash or self-aggrandizing about getting external reinforcement for something important to us.

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