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gen z dating advice is HORRIBLE

this might not seem ultra related to style, but i’ve seen similar posts made on topics like these, so i wanted to talk about it here too, since one of the focused here is self improvement and the topics related to it.

“women are all shallow, hypergamous monsters who suck the souls out of men”

“men are shallow, slobby, gross bigots who only want sex”

-pretty much every dating coach on social media ever.

being gen z kinda sucks in this realm. but one of the worst aspects of it is the dating culture now.

or should i say, the mirage of dating culture.

social media has done great benefits for us, but in my personal opinion, has done more harm than good, at least when unregulated.

echo chambers, messed up dopamine levels, extreme opinions, and a constant feed of biased information are deeply bad for us.

a lot of us lack commitment, emotional maturity, and genuine understanding and compassion of others.

and one of the worst things to arise from it, has been a massive surge of manosphere content.

now i don’t have issues with everything the manosphere has to say. i think it does have good aspects, like self respect, discipline, reclaiming masculinity, and working hard to achieve your goals. those are great things and should absolutely be taught.

but then when it gets to its extreme, it gets dangerous.

for one, it’s the treatment of women and reducing them down to sex objects and robots. on these online forums regarding incel redpill and blackpill topics, there’s an extremely derogatory and dehumanizing word that gets thrown around, called “foid”, which is meant to reduce women down to harmful stereotypes and dehumanize them. if you really wanna dive deeper into it, i don’t recommend it, it’s disgusting.

the other thing i see is the harmful mindset of “us vs them”. now for me personally, i used to be on these deep manosphere forums and consumed the content. professional victimhood is one of the biggest things ive seen.

its defeatist, deterministic, “us vs them” worldview that views everyone else enemies, and anything bad that happens, well its everyone else’s fault.

it’s ironic and paradoxical, considering that at surface value, it contradicts the good traits i listed about the manosphere in the beginning.

but it’s easier to blame others and genetics instead of taking responsibility. it’s easy to pity yourself instead of loving yourself enough to make a change. it’s easy to be angry at the world, and that’s why this is making such an impact.

let’s face it, a lot of young men are in crisis. negative mental health, feeling emasculated and alone, and consuming horrible social media content, well it really hurts you.

the depression from cheap dopamine, the jealousy and comparisons you see online, and combined with the negativity that gets blown up online, i won’t say i can’t see why men in my generation struggle and get scared to date again.

so where does this fit into dating advice?

because this content, this negative pill content is starting to leak into dating. no matter where you go, you won’t avoid it.

channels and influencers who reinforce a defeatist worldview get more money and ego feed. negativity always bubbles to the top. to give you a little example, here’s a video of a very well known and popular person in this space. be warned, you might lose some brain cells :/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHcpY9oqke0

see what i mean?

the more people consume the content, the more they believe it. the more people who believe it, the more it spreads, and that’s how this wildfire exists.

they use half assed statistics, biased data, and warped anecdotes pasted as “science” to support their bs, which makes them look more professional, and that adds to the trap.

combined with normal sad experiences like being cheated on, rejected, or made fun of, which happens to everyone at some point it’s a wildfire waiting to happen.

the issue i see here is that negativity always finds a way to the top. what people don’t realize is that heartbreak is like a human canon event. i’ve had a lot of my fair share of heartbreaks, some of them absolutely shattering. but i stopped becoming bitter and angry about it because i realized that i was part of the problem.

im not saying to be naive or toxicly positive. but realize that its not as bad as people say it is. yes people are immature, yes, bad things happen, but embracing a nihilistic, defeatist worldview isn’t changing anything, it’s falling down to the corner and becoming complacent with a shitty situation.

start making changes. start working out. eat healthy and stay hydrated. take care of yourself. don’t lust and fetishize people. go touch some grass. and please, please stop consuming content like this if you do.

anyways, asking you guys, what are your thoughts on this?

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