I've been guilty of deciding what my day would be like based on the sleep score on my (now retired) Oura ring. 🫥 Somewhere around 80? Yeah, fine. 🤝 60-70? I’d spend the morning telling myself I was going to be tired, and then, lo and behold, I would feel tired. 🥱 Some days I would be in the high 90s range and still feel like I’d been dragged through the mud. These days I pay more attention to how I feel around 3 pm. If my breathing is deep and smooth, if I am not inexplicably irritable, and if I get through the afternoon dip without needing a nap, the night was probably somewhere in the good to great range. Most of the people I work with come in with a clear idea of what good sleep is **supposed** to look like. Usually it’s an hour count or a score on an app, and a lot of the stress around sleep comes from measuring themselves against it. But what is often missing is the very personal and embodied awareness of the signals of health (or lack thereof) that our body gives us all the time. If we pay attention. So I’m curious...how do you know you slept well? ⬇️

And maybe the answer is “both” 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s rarely JUST about how well you do your evening routine or if you meditate. Without addressing the systems we’re living in, we’re barely scratching the surface. Thoughts?

I have three openings for 1:1 coaching starting in November, and I wanted to let you know before anyone else. Who is this for? If you've been lying awake at night, waking up tired no matter how early you go to bed, or dreading the night before it even starts, this is the kind of thing I help with. What is sleep coaching? Sometimes we work on sleep directly. We look at what your body is doing at night, why it's not settling, and what helps it feel safe enough to switch off. Most people I work with have tried the sleep hygiene lists already. They know about screens and caffeine. What they're missing is someone looking at their whole situation and helping them figure out what's going on for them (and not generic sleep advice). Other times, the sleep problem is a symptom of something else. A job that's been running you into the ground. A relationship ending. A new baby, or a parent who needs looking after. Hormonal changes. Grief. A mind that won't stop planning while you're trying to rest. We work on those parts too, because that's often where the sleep gets stuck. Working with a coach gives you a person in your corner who notices patterns you can't see from the inside, adjusts things as you go, and helps you stay with it when it gets frustrating. Sleep improves slowly and unevenly, and it helps to not be figuring it out alone. If you're curious but not sure it's the right fit, you can book a free discovery call with me first. https://calendar.app.google/hmHAsqT1UG7PTnVCA We'll spend 30 minutes talking about what's going on, I'll tell you honestly whether I think I can help and how, you will receive and detailed plan of how we could work together, and you can decide from there. I love this work. I'm passionate about helping people sleep well. And I can likely help. I would love to meet you.

What do you normally reach for to cope with the effects of a bad night's sleep? I personally tended to reach for coffee, and had the habit of catastrophizing what my next day will feel/look like. In reality, once I fought the urge to mask my exhaustion with caffeine, let my body simply do its thing and find its natural way to homeostasis, and I didn't pile onto my own misery with anticipatory anxiety...sleep tended to more easily come back to normal. But it takes some time to get to this place of returning to good sleep with relative ease. You can get there much more quickly by starting to track your sleep behaviours, and I teach you how to do that for free in the Sleep Diagnostic Journey in the Classroom. (Don't forget that anyone can apply to get a free Sleep Review after 7 days of tracking their data and/or you can bring that data and your questions to the weekly free Q&A session - happening tomorrow) So, what are you go-to things to cope with a bad night? Newcomers, @Navyansh Bajaj @Bri Duarte @Estefania Mantilla @Crystal Ervin @Dani Rabinovich @Karmen Ovnicek @Tracy Russell @Jani Nurminen , how about you?