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Sigh… I am at a loss honestly. I feel like I did everything right this time as much as I could. I connected with a guy on an app. Got him off the app. Got him to agree to meet my wali early on. Was intentional in my questions and focused on the things that mattered. Haven’t seen any red or yellow flags. Tried to keep Islamic guidance and the sunnah in mind.

The only thing that isn’t “ideal” about this guy is his financial situation. For various life reasons, he did not establish a solid career earlier in life but he’s on the way to do that now. He’s still looking to be a provider and has not shown any indication that he is interested in my money. He didn’t even ask my profession in the first couple conversations we had. He just knew I did work outside the home. I am now very well established Alhumdulillah and make more money than most men do. I cannot expect any guy I find to make the same amount as me or more than me unless I marry a doctor or some corporate rich guy.

I talk to my dad about meeting him - and his first comment is why is he interested in you, knowing you’re divorced and have kids? And automatically jumped to worrying that this guy is just after my money. Didn’t even ask anything about the guy himself and dismissed when I told him that he seems to have good character and follows the deen well.

How does one navigate that kind of suspicion and negativity?

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