As I have had increasing success with women, I started to have to decide between women as well as non-dating life goals. This led me to go back to why I date, and in my case why I date multiple women (which can be a lot of work).
My dating why has become a purpose driven mindset of being a catalyst for women's growth, healing and self discovery. While this does let me have some mind blowing sexual relations, it also means I am there for other women in very non-sexual friend-zone relationships. But in a way, these also are very important to me because it aligns with my purpose and sometimes my purpose means giving without receiving. It is service to others.
Does your why find a way to give? To support? To heal?
If it does not, is it because you need to heal or grow first?