“Divorce is robbery, the kids are hostages and the court is the getaway driver… why would a guy get involved?”

Do some of you guys feel a little pressure when your in a relationship in some sort of way of keeping women entertain with some new experience that she hasn’t already done because of the concept of never keep a woman bored. I know it’s something new like stepping out your comfort zone, what was some of the obstacle or challenges y’all faced and how did y’all handle this situation?

I’ve been sober for almost 4 years and I love every second of it. Alcohol never got me anywhere with women and only created problems in life. It set me back in the gym and I spent the following day recovering and trying to correct mistakes I made the previous day/night. If someone asks me if I want a drink, I usually just decline and say “no thanks, I’m not drinking tonight.” I always thought I’d need some drawn out explanation but people are usually satisfied with that response. I’m comfortable with having water or even a mocktail or red bull on ice. I highly recommend considering quitting. It’ll not only help your wallet but will allow you to remember the people you’re meeting, conversations you’re having and create more of the connections and relationships we all ultimately want. You’ll be more charismatic, a better listener, more calibrated and overall better conversationalist. The confidence you create will be real as opposed to fake and temporary.

I have heard the saying women gatekeep sex and men gatekeep commitment, but I have also see Rollo say women hold both of them. Another thing that puzzles me is that if women withhold both the things, then what do guys have control over in the relationship.

There is something to be said about looking the part. There are a few hotels that I take photos at in SF, but also if I need to kill time, if I want to have a meeting, if I want a free cup of coffee or even better a free breakfast I will go to some of these places dressed like a fucking BOSS, and no one says a thing. I actually like I belong I act like I've been here and people treat me as such.