It is a related thought, I have two girls I date, both are attracted to me, but one goes out of her way to prioritize her dates with me, showing up 100%. The other flakes 30% of the time. I'll still set up dates, cuz she's way hot and a lot of fun when we do get together. But the other one, her reliability really boosts her up in my perspective.

@Joseph Pimental I think you're like me, meeting more women through social circles than IG. My IG is also a work in progress. I think social circles is easier for us older guys, especially when we're pursuing older women, 35-55 generally is my range.

Time and respect are the two things I place boundaries on the most. A woman will value your time more if YOU value your time. I attend men's group meetings, and have told women that I will not give those times up. They see that I won't just give them any time she wants. Also, any disrespect is not tolerated. I'm not an ass about it, I don't get mad, I just calmly say "That's unacceptable, we won't talk about this again, disrespect like that just means you aren't the one for me. Do you understand?"

A Canticle for Leibowitz. I need to mix fiction in with my non-fiction, helps me keep my ability to pay attention up

At the same time, I'm in Dr. Roy Casagranda's Crusades podcasts.

@Chris Campbell these are the 4 ways. Taraban is right, dating apps are the easiest, but also the worst. Social circles have been the best for me. But it took time establishing myself in the groups I participate in. https://youtu.be/XNDsRyYs6E0?si=pC8KkVF-doQtz7Fc

@Yingdi Liu clubs.

@Felix Urbanek a little bit. But not super serious about it. You can see the top "2" of the 6 of a six pack on me. Ive got good definition of arm and leg muscles, and I'm light enough to have agility

@Felix Urbanek when Im at 218 lbs, I dont want to drop any, but I fluctuate up to 224, and then I want to drop 6. This morning I was 219.....