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Hey Guys,
Its been a while since I've posted but I wanted to share things that I've seen and learned this year. How important it is to get involved in different things outside of work and outside the normal stuff.
LEARNING TO USE MY PHONE CAMERA
After asking a few of photographers on Instagram, it is true, if you have a smart phone made in the past few years, your phones camera is better than many beginner digital cameras today. While it can't compete with a Pro's DSLR, it will get the job done for social media. It took about a year total of practice with expert raw, video pro mode (s24 sucks at night) and the regular mode, but it's worth it.
GET INVOLVED ON PROJECTS OUTSIDE OF WORK
This year I signed up for a beginner bachata performance team and attended a photographer meetup. These allowed me to meet new people and level up on my photo, video, and dancing skills.
BEGINNER BACHATA TEAM
I now finally see the difference between ATTENTION AND COMPLIANCE. There was one blonde Ukrainian girl that would seriously flirt with me, however, when I tried to get her to hangout to rehearse (for real) or she invited me to a social, she was nowhere to be found. Now, she is dating another guy from the team.
LESSON - All the ATTENTION in the world means dogshit if the girl does not show compliance. If there's no follow up in any way it means nothing.
Another blonde girl and I decided not to be dance partners anymore after our first performance (mutual decision and I was happy after). Yet after that chat, through her ACTIONS she made it crystal clear that she did not want to speak to me, let alone be around me. It was like being around Mr. Freeze. So I left her alone and lived life. In November, the team had a friendsgiving and this same girl is suddenly nicer and asking ME to dance. She is even friendly to me now at dance socials. It seems that after all that practice she is much for confident in her dance skills, and it does show.
LESSON - In public, you can't give a FUCK. You can be the most encouraging and uplifting person, yet some people just wont want anything to do with you for whatever reason. That's life. You have to stop giving a FUCK and accept that just how some people are!
After performing twice now, when I went out and cold approached, its like my nerves were dead to the anxiety.
COLD APPROACH
Because of a new work schedule, I haven't cold approached as much these past few months. Yet I've tried to make up for it with the Photoshoots and making content for people. When I was cold approaching I made some decent progress and got pretty good at opening and general chitchat, free associating one topic to another. I learned that NOTHING is a guarantee and that we do need to cold approach to work on social skills. It really is like going to the gym, but for social skills. It also beats "hittin the club" and picking up chicks the typical way. Now I have a plan/purpose. Reading the mystery method helped and cleared some things up.
LESSONS
- Any hooking up at all - that is 95% the girl deciding, the guy just needs to know enough to lead and move things forward.
- The better way to handle a rejection is to let it roll off and carry on like nothing happens. Sometimes the girl just isn't comfortable yet and she needs time.
At a block party, there was a cover rock band. While enjoying the band, I started talking to a rocker looking chick (little older than me). After about 10 mins of talking or so I tried a hint at a possible hookup. Went for it and got turned down. So,I gave her space and enjoyed the band. A little while later, she pulls me in for a group shot with the band and audience. Here I knew I could try again! After a little more talking of where we each were going, I try again and get the kiss. Again, didn't act butthurt but was nonchalant about it. I F'ed up though by not getting her number.
- Women overall really don't mind a guy approaching them, just that most guys approach in a very "obvious way". If a guy is just social, willing to talk with everyone with no "motives" he'll do much better.
- Exchanging Instagram is nothing at all if the vibe and conversation are good. It also makes it easier and more natural to exchanges igs if you inviting people to an invite (doesn't matter if they show or not). Yet not every girl will want to exchange instagrams, that fine its just practice.
- No one cares if you mess up. I've messed up a few times with groups of girls. Not even 5 minutes later we walk past each other like nothing happened at all. Everyone is in their own world.
- As you start vibing with the group take videos, even selfie videos with MY PHONE with the group. Tell the girls you'll send them the videos on ig, now there's an open thread.
PHOTOSHOOTS
If you live in or are near a major city, lookup TFP groups (photographer groups). These groups are where photographers and models (newbies and experienced) meet for content for their profile and social media. I went to a meetup in central park and unexpectedly befriended one of the models there.... I tried to both take photos and model, but quickly learned how tough trying to do both is. My brain wanted to explode, haha. So while all the rest of the photgraphers and models worked I decided to USE MY SMART PHONE and take BTS CLIPS of the day. One of the models ended up posing with 2 snakes on her shoulders. Photographers surrounded her like paparazzi; it was a real moment. She was hesitant about it but adjusted well. Now as the sun really set, neither of us wanted to stay in central park
as it got darker. I suggested we leave together for safety reasons (better as a pair than individual, its still central park). We chat and exchange instragrams. SHE CHECKS OUT MY INSTRAGRAM RIGHT IN FROM OF ME. She sees the new style photos on there, dance videos with other girls, exercise videos, etc.
LESSON - Women will comb through you instagram. Even after 5 minutes they are looking through your ig and seeing what you are about.
Over the next few days we end up exchange content. She sends the videos she took of me dancing salsa with another girl who was in a different group (posted on my ig). I send her the BTS clips I ended up taking of her while she was posing. She LOVED IT and took the clips and made her own edits from the clips.
LESSONS - LEARN TO USE YOUR PHONE CAMERA, HOW TO TAKE GOOD PICTIRES/VIDEOS. That and a MODEL WILL LOVE THEIR BTS content.
This same model/female friend, got into 2 magazines with the photos taken that day. We stayed in touch and she invited me to a content collab and I went. Got more BTS content and already her and the other people are using this content in their video edits. Again, never underestimate the power of well taken content and providing some kind of value.
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