Boxing Day, The Quiet Gift of Integration
Boxing Day has a very different energy to Christmas Day, doesn’t it? The rush has softened. The expectations have loosened their grip. The noise has settled. And what we’re left with is space. This is the day I’ve come to love most, not because it’s spectacular, but because it’s honest. Boxing Day invites us to integrate rather than perform. To gently unpack what the season stirred up and decide what we want to carry forward… and what we’re finally ready to put down. A Day for the Nervous System 💛 After the intensity of Christmas, the emotions, the memories, the family dynamics, the joy and the grief often woven together, Boxing Day offers our nervous systems a long exhale. No pressure to be “on.” No need to prove anything. No forced cheerfulness. Just permission to be. This is where real wellbeing lives. Not in perfection, but in presence. Polyvagal Theory Made Simple 🌿 At its core, Polyvagal Theory explains something deeply reassuring: Your nervous system is always scanning for cues of safety or cues of danger like a nosy neighbour curtain twitching. When life feels manageable, we’re in our Ventral Vagal state, the safe and social zone where we feel calm, connected, and open. But when stress ramps up (hello, Christmas!), we naturally shift into survival modes like fight/flight or freeze. Nothing has gone wrong. Your body is doing its job. The goal of regulation isn’t to “fix” yourself it’s simply to send signals of safety back to the brain. The Three States of the Nervous System 🚦 Think of these as colours rather than labels: 🟢 Ventral Vagal, The Green Zone State: Safe and Social Feels like: Calm, connected, curious, grounded This is where rest, digestion, learning, creativity, and healing happen. 🔴 Sympathetic, The Red Zone State: Fight or Flight Feels like: Anxious, irritable, rushed, overwhelmed Your heart rate increases and your body prepares for action. 🔵 Dorsal Vagal, The Blue Zone State: Freeze / Shutdown Feels like: Numb, flat, exhausted, disconnected